Monthly Archives: October 2014

5 Swingers Halloween Costume Ideas

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Happy Halloween everyone!

If you are like many other people, even though Halloween is only a day away, you might still be looking for a costume idea or looking for something to put the finishing touch on your costume.

Let’s face it, Halloween is one of the best times of the year to be a swinger, and there is no shortage of events and swingers Halloween parties to check out. Whether you are going to the swingers clubs in Toronto or having a house party, you want to have the best and most sexy costume possible.

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Here are some swingers Halloween costume ideas that will definitely turn some heads when you walk in the door:

  1. Body paint: Want to take things to the next level? Forget the costume all together and use body paint. Your options for how you paint your body are almost endless.
  2. Good cop – bad cop: Looking for a costume for you and your partner. How about a good cop – bad cop costume?
  3. Reverse the sexes: Why not reverse roles for the night? This will definitely put a new and unique spin on things for the night.
  4. Tandem costumes or duos: Since swinging is a couples thing, it makes sense for you to choose costumes that are duos. Use your imagination and get creative.
  5. Sexy everything: We all know that Halloween is an excuse to let loose and dress sexy. While swingers are used to being sexy and exploring more often, Halloween is an excuse take things to the next level. The truth is that you can turn almost any costume idea into a sexy version of it. Sexy vampires, sexy school girls, sexy fairy’s, and even sexy ghosts and ghouls, all you have to do is use your imagination.

Have a fun and sexy Halloween!

 

The Don’ts of Swinging

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So you are interested in getting involved in the swinger’s lifestyle and want to learn more about it. While most have a basic understand of what swinging is all about and what they can expect, many fail to have a deeper understanding of the faux pas of the lifestyle.

Like any other segment of society, there are certain things that you just don’t do. Swinging is not a free for all, especially when you visit some of the swingers clubs in Toronto. There are certain rules, customs, and conventions that everyone abides by.

Here are some of the don’ts of swinging:

  • No cameras: This is one of the biggest no-no’s, especially at the swingers club. Being discreet is one of the most important aspects of the lifestyle. Never bring a camera or take pictures – that is, unless you have the consent of everyone involved.
  • No means no: Plain and simple. No means no. If someone is not interested in you, move on.
  • No jealously: If you or your partner has a seed of jealousy, then perhaps swinging is not for you. No one wants to deal with jealous couples. It just makes things awkward for everyone.
  • Don’t be pushy: Building on the rule of “no means no” no one wants to deal with someone that is pushy. Avoid trying to force the issue.
  • Don’t be vague vote about your desires: Swinging is about exploring your desires. Therefore, you need to be abundantly clear about your desires if you want people to help you make them come true.
  • Don’t be rude: Just like in any other situation of your life, being rude won’t get you anywhere. As they say, you will get bees with honey than with vinegar.
  • Don’t overindulge in alcohol: Don’t take someone who isn’t interested and not informed, about the actual course of the night.

Whether you are new to swinging and going to the swingers club for the first time or are a seasoned veteran of the lifestyle, it’s important that you have the right approach. This ensures everyone has a fun and exciting time.

Mia Moore Guest Post: Swingers Statistics 101 – These Stats May Surprise You!

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Just how many people are in the Lifestyle and how have the numbers changed over time? This is a question I decided to explore for my post this month. I’ll try to keep it light and sexual as opposed to dry and well…statistical. That may be hard but bear with me.

First of all, what area of the world contains the most swinger clubs?

North America?

Europe?

Asia?

South America?

If you guessed Asia, you win, and so do the happy swinging couples living there. Actually, I’m quoting a study,  http://free-swingers.org/analytics.html, that includes erotic massage parlors, couples and singles swinging clubs, so many of these Asians, may only be benefitting from a full body, COMPLETE massage. Did I say only? It sounds pretty hot to me!

Europe, with 462 establishments, lagging Asia by 38, comes second. It’s strange but the authors of the data do not give statistics for the US as a whole, but counting up the number of clubs that are broken down by state, the total is 3,479, so we find the REAL winner here. Sorry folks, Canada weighed in at only 12.

According to Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, Volume 3, Oct. 10, 2000 (www.ejhs.org) 15 percent of Americans have engaged in swinging.  Note the date of this study—14 years ago! They get their statistics from NASCA. (North American Swing Club Association) This study also cites statistics garnered in 1974 that only 1 percent of couples at that time had ever engaged in swinging.  So what about now?

The Kinsey Institute states that 4 million people in the USA are swingers. With numbers like that, it’s no wonder that a HUGE industry in niche travel has developed.

There’s no need to cite the reasons that couples opt for swinging when you consider that 41 percent of married couples have committed infidelity at some point in their relationship. (http://www.statisticbrain.com/infidelity-statistics/)  According to this source, a further 68 percent of women and 74 percent of men stated that they would have an affair if there was zero chance of their spouse ever finding out.

I don’t know about you, but I find that number very sad. It’s sad for the person being deceived as well as for the person who wants to have extra marital sex.

Another interesting number that popped up in my research was that about half of the couples who go to swinger’s clubs are quite content to just watch. The eroticism of the evening kick starts their sex lives into over-drive in the week leading up to the night as well as a pleasant hang-over effect during the week following. That’s a hang-over that I like!

Is there a swinger profile? Who are we and what do we do for a living? The same study conducted by Bergstrand and Williams in the Journal of Human Sexuality, states that

Demographically, swingers appear to be surprisingly mainstream, even conservative, in their characteristics. They have been found to be predominantly conservative to moderate in political orientation and to identify with the Republican party.

The majority fall into the middle to upper-middle classes and tend to be in professional and management positions 

Over 90 percent of Swingers are white and middle-aged…the mean age of swingers [was found] to be 39 years.

Please note that this study was done fourteen years ago. The current information age with clubs, swinger contacts, how to articles in abundance are now available with the click of your mouse while snuggling naked with your partner. It’s not hard for me to conclude that at the present time more and more people are dipping their toes and other parts into the Lifestyle and the age range has expanded to include people in their twenties and sixties.

Swinging is not yet as mainstream as homosexuality has become. When I say mainstream in this fashion, I’m talking about how the major media generally has an approach to the Lifestyle somewhere between ‘OMG!’ and ‘Eeew!’ I believe that we’re yet to be respected, let alone accepted by mainstream media. On the other hand, online web podcasts are growing significantly, and not just the Playboy streams either.

I do believe that acceptance of the Lifestyle, becoming more mainstream is on the cusp —just a little nudge over the hump and we’re going to be there. And why not! Personally, I have more respect for a man or woman who are honest with each other, and share what is a fundamental and exciting gift—their sexuality, than the people who sneak around, lying and cheating on their partners.

Now it’s time to get all feminist on you. The fact that in the Lifestyle, the uterus rules is a comforting thought for me. Sure, the male may initially spark the interest in trying a club, but it’s the female who keeps the couple coming back. If I’m not comfortable with a scene or couple, I can put the brakes on anything developing, no questions asked. Having said that, I also respect Spike’s limits and preferences. We’re a team and we’re there to enhance our relationship, not take one for the team.

This is why the Lifestyle works for us and from the way the numbers are growing, it works for many people. I wish I had the statistic of Canada’s numbers. Any Canadian sex researchers out there? Maybe, I’ll have to do my own study. Hell, it’s almost September and maybe years of school have sparked the topic of my blog today-Stats 101.

Always,

Mia Moore

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