Monthly Archives: November 2014

Dress to Impress: What you need to know about dress codes at swingers clubs

Swingers Club in Toronto

One of the most common questions we get from our members and people interested in checking out the O Zone for the first time is about what they should wear to a swingers club in Ontario.

Just like any other high class establishment in Toronto or across the GTA, we have a strict dress code in effect. We take pride in offering the best experience possible for our members, and this is reflected in our dress code.

Would you be interested in having fun with other members that didn’t bother to take the time to look their best? Probably not. And this is why we have a dress code in place – To make the swingers club as appealing as possible for everyone.

As stated in our dress code at the swingers club, the following items are NOT permitted at The O Zone:

  • Shorts
  • Sandals
  • Caps, Hats or Bandannas
  • Jerseys
  • Worn out jeans
  • Running Shoe
  • Any other items of clothing that we deem in inappropriate

With the exception of theme or costume parties, the rules regarding our dress code will be strictly enforced. We do reserve the right to deny you entry at the door if you don’t meet our standards. But just dress your best and you should have no issues.

As a general rule, to maximize your experience at the swingers club, and to garner the type of attention you are looking for, we say it’s important to DRESS TO IMPRESS!

Our swingers and club members have high standards and are looking for well-dressed counterparts to engage during their time at the club.

If you have any questions about your attire and what is and is not permissible at the club, feel free to call us anytime to discuss the dress code.

Single Guys and the Swingers Lifestyle

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At the O Zone, we get our fair share of requests from single guys. Some are just looking for sex because they have made incorrect assumptions about what the lifestyle is all about, and we also get a good number of inquiries from guys that are legitimately interested in what swinging is all about.

The first thing that you need to understand is that the swinger’s lifestyle is primarily for like-minded couples. However, on rare occasions couples do seek out a single guy or single female to join them for an evening of fun.

The O Zone is primarily a couple’s only club, with single males only permitted on special nights, usually Friday nights. If you do attend you need to understand that our swingers club is a private members club and you need to abide by the rules and regulations.

Most important – you need to respect other couples and realize this is the key to having a good time at the club. Swingers clubs are not a place for you to pick up a woman (unless she is single). Things work differently than a traditional night club in Toronto.

Swingers Club Rules for Single Guy

To get a better sense of what single guys can expect, here are The O Zone swinger’s club rules for single guys:

  • No means no! Anyone at any time can say NO, even if you are in the middle of an encounter.
  • No touching without permission.
  • Approach couples with respect. If a single lady or wife is interested in you, let them approach you. Be patient and polite during the evening.
  • No harassment. This includes: gawking, asking for phone numbers, and/or aggressively asking for a sexual encounter. If you are interested in swinging with someone, let him or her know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively.
  • You are required to be courteous at all times.
  • There are designated areas of the play rooms that single gentlemen are permitted. There are other marked areas for couples only. If you enter a marked “couples only area”, or act inappropriately in any area of the club you will be asked to leave
    without refund.
  • Respect couples looking for privacy.
  • Fridays Only. Select single males will be permitted into the club on Fridays Nights only. Saturdays will be reserved for couples and single females only unless otherwise stated.

 

Mia Moore Guest Post: About The “Lifestyle” Umbrella Term

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When you hear the term ‘Lifestyle’, generally the concept refers to alternative sexuality—alternative to vanilla. But if you used the word when speaking with an aficionado of the BDSM world the mental image is much different than the one a swinger would immediately call to mind.

Both worlds are cornerstones of each end of the spectrum. If I were to use a colour wheel, BDSM would be a deep, almost black shade of red, while swinging would be orange tiptoeing into yellow.

I’ve experienced both sides in the dynamic of ‘Lifestyle’. It’s been my experience that the BDSM folks characterize their play as deeply sexual and erotic, involving the largest sexual organ in the body—the mind. TRUST is a huge element in the dynamic between a Dominant and submissive. A paradox that I noticed in BDSM, involves the power exchange. While the submissive person, bound and whipped appears to be the least powerful in a BDSM scene, they actually hold the most power. Either of the two parties can halt the scene at their discretion but in order for the scene to happen, the submissive needs to trust and surrender for it to begin in the first place.

Okay, so what has this got to do with swinging? This is a blog about swinging, right?

Trust is a huge element in the Swinging lifestyle as well. For a couple to delve into sexual activity with other people, they must trust in the strength of their relationship. Both people in that couple must desire the experience as a way to enhance their relationship. Like the BDSM participants, both hold the power to halt further action if the trust or attraction isn’t there.

For many purists in the BDSM lifestyle, physical sex does not enter into a scene. Yet, ask a person who’s been involved in BDSM for a while and they will tell you it is HIGHLY sexual, the interplay between a Dominant and submissive. The act of surrendering power, allowing yourself to experience pain, at the hands of another is the ultimate sexual release, involving your mind and soul. I have witnessed the powerful state of a submissive beaten to the point where they ‘fly’ or enter sub-space, so I believe this to be true.

For me, the feeing most akin to this in the swinging lifestyle is the closeness a couple experience when they watch each other achieve orgasm at the hands of another. What could be a devastating scenario if done in a strictly monogamous, vanilla couple relationship, becomes a powerful connection between partners in a swinging couple. The foreplay and afterplay in the weeks before and after such an event are like shock-waves, that bond and excite the swinging couple.

Although the BDSM world and the swinging stage seem to be polar opposites, there are elements of commonality in my mind. People in the Lifestyle, and please note I use the term as an umbrella term that encompasses both ends of the spectrum, tend to be open and accepting of diverse behavior in the sexual realm. Of course, consent between adult people is a given—anything other than this cannot enter the picture.

I’ll always remember an incident when I first discovered the BDSM side of the Lifestyle. An older man responded to my question about one of the guys at the party, who wore what appeared to be a leather skirt. It was my first party, okay? Anyway, his answer was off-hand, casual and accepting of the guy’s kink. Oh wow! Would, that society as a whole be so non-judgmental… Maybe gay bashing and other narrow, mean spirited behavior would never occur.

People in the Lifestyle usually don’t advertize that fact. Just as homosexual men and women once left the closet at their peril, the public acceptance of Lifestylers isn’t quite there yet. I foresee a time when it will be. Remember, it wasn’t that long ago that being gay carried a huge stigma. Today, there are popular television programs where a gay couple is the star of the show. Who would have guessed thirty years ago that this would happen?

Styles change, morals evolve over time. Does it mean we’re all going to hell in a hand basket? I don’t think so. Perhaps we’re just growing up as a society, learning that there are alternatives to the ways and experiences of the past.

I think Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. said it best:

“A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.”

Always,

Mia Moore

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