While poking around on one of the Swinger Dating sites, I found this Poll question: “Whats your favorite benefit of the Swingers Lifestyle?”
There were so many answers on this thread, it took me awhile to read through them all, so thought I’d break it down for you here. As you can imagine there was a lot of “we love all the sex!” and “FWB”, but the rest of the answers may surprise you! Check it out!
-building great friendships
-meeting new, open minded people
-new experiences wouldn’t otherwise have
-fun hanging out with past play friends, knowing we’ve had sex and they think we are sexy
-having like minded friends to travel with ie: LS resorts and hotel takeovers
-watching others reactions when with my partner
-the absolute openness and honesty between us
-trusting each other completely
-swinging takes the chance of cheating off the table for most couples
-closer bond with my partner
-it’s fun, invigorating and exciting
-being around people that think the same way is awesome
-club nights are nothing like ‘vanilla club’ nights, so much better!
-lack of judgment enables you to be yourself
-love to watch each other mingle or flirt with others
-watch my partner blossom under the attention of others
-variety: being with someone new and discovering each other
-Now that I know my partner is open to this, it has opened the door for us to talk about other sexual things on our minds, sharing ‘forbidden kinks’ and even exploring some of them.
-One of us loves/wants LOTS of sex, one of us not so much. This allows us to each have exactly the right amount of sex for both of us without having to cheat.
-Our largest benefit has come from the amount of comfort and honesty we feel with each other. It doesn’t just apply to the lifestyle… it trickles over into every day life and makes everything more rewarding.
-There is always going to be someone prettier or more charming, but why stray from someone that will let you have your cake and eat her… umm… I mean IT too!
So, what’s keeping you from having a conversation with your partner?