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Mia Moore Guest Post: Ice Cream, Ebooks, and News Years at The O Zone

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It started January 1, 2014. That was the day, driving home in the car from Toronto; the idea of a novel featuring a New Year’s Eve at the O Zone took shape. I was still high on the experience I’d had there the night before, which became the wee hours of the present day.

What a great place for the characters of my most popular novel to visit!

I was on fire and wound the book up in three short weeks!  ‘Banging in the New Year, Swingers O Zone Bash was barely published as an E-book, when I decided to contact Matt and Amanda and send them a copy. Now, almost 12 months and many ‘Lifestyle’ books later, I’m still excited about New Year’s at the O Zone! I’m planning to party once more with my husband and dear friends. Can’t wait!

Sometimes I think of sex like it’s a flavor of ice cream. I actually did some research on the most popular ice cream flavours.  (Coming up with blog ideas is sometimes difficult, so cut me some slack, will ya.)

  • Vanilla: Surprisingly, Vanilla is the all-time favourite, with 29% of people weighing in.  Just like regular monogamous sex between a man and woman, by far the most prevalent type, the preference for vanilla, is a reflection of that.
  • Chocolate: It’s the next favourite- 8.9%. For me, this would be like BDSM kink, very strong and dark, to be sampled in small doses. Don’t ask Jian Ghomeshi for his opinion on this one.
  • Butter Pecan: A favourite of 5.3% of people. I’m trying to find a sexual style to compare this flavor with and I’m drawing a blank, even though I like the taste.
  • Strawberry: Yummy! Preferred by 5.3% of people sampled in the article I read, it’s a flavor I equate with swinging. It’s fresh, like the berries in June! The sweetness is like vanilla but the delicious, red berry casts the sweetness in a tantalizing and enticing way—the same way a couple’s sex life is enhanced in the Lifestyle!.
  • Chocolate Chip: Mostly vanilla sex, but dabbles in dungeons.
  • French vanilla: 3.8%. What’s the population in the province of Quebec?
  • Cookies ‘n Cream: If you get your cookies off, the result is lots of cream.
  • Cherry: Lost mine long time ago. It was sweet but tart at the time. I’ve graduated to another red flavor, strawberry.
  • Rocky Road: I’ve seen this flavor in action. It’s what happens when a couple goes to a club and they’re not on the same page in their relationship. It’s a rocky road home that night. Always check in with each other before pushing boundaries.

Enough talk of ice cream! My ass gets bigger just thinking of it. Which makes me think of body image…This is a huge factor for people thinking of getting into the Lifestyle. Let’s face it, not everyone looks like Jennifer Lopez or Brad Pitt- thank God! Wouldn’t the world be boring if we did?

It’s all about attitude, baby! People will notice your smile, your confidence strutting an extra few pounds in your caboose before they’ll notice anything else. Well, maybe the valley of cleavage between the mounds of a generous bust line, if they’re anything like my hubby-doo. But I’ve seen him get quite the chubby watching confident, body-generous women, work it. As for me, a guy’s eyes, his sense of humor (Okay, I’ve been accused of being Jessica Rabbit!) and smile warm me up more than a six pack set of abs.

The French have a great saying – ‘Bien dans sa peau’- being comfortable in your skin (a lot of guys have told me they’d be comfortable in my skin LOL)! It’s a feat of confidence that makes you happy, while at the same time, speaks volumes in terms of exuding pure, unadulterated, sexiness.

What’s more, Yves Ste Laurent, the ultra cosmetic and perfume guru, once said “The most beautiful makeup of a woman is passion.” If you don’t believe me, believe Yves.

Passion and fun are what I know I’ll get at the O Zone on New Year’s Eve. I hope to see you there. Bring the strawberry ice cream.

Mia Moore Guest Post – In The Bush

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No, I’m not talking about Hedo North, although I’d like to schedule a vacation at the resort and who knows…maybe write a book about it!  Writing Banging in the New Year-Swingers O Zone Bash was almost as much fun as playing at the club that night.

There’s been a lot of talk lately about shaving versus going for a more natural look in women’s grooming of the pussy. I’m not sure if this was sparked by Cameron Diaz’s comment in her book, The Body Book: The Law of Hunger, The Science of Strength and Other Ways to Love your Amazing Body,

“Your pubic hair is a mysterious, confusing, pretty, furry door (more like a beaded curtain?) to your vagina, and you should never remove it because one day someone’s going to want to get in there and they’ll probably enjoy their stay more if they have to hunt around for the entrance, like they’re entering a genital speakeasy.”

In my research of this hairy issue, I came across an article where Gwyneth Paltrow, on the Ellen show talks about last minute shaving in order to wear a dress for the Premier of Iron Man. She said she went from feeling beautiful to feeling humiliated. This led to comments about candid photos on the internet of Demi Moore’s forest. I know Hollywood tends to set the standard in terms of beauty trends, and it isn’t surprising that even the Guardian (January 14 2014) had an article on this that’s been shared 34,000 times on Facebook as well as Tweeted about over 700 times.

I know you’re going to do a Google search to see Demi Moore’s Genital Triangle (not be confused with the Bermuda one) and if you’re like me, you’ll almost experience whiplash when you see it. The first thought that popped into my head was Larry David in Curb Your Enthusiasm. There was a whole hilarious episode where he and Cheryl had oral sex and one of her pubic hairs got caught in his throat and clung to the inside of his esophagus over the entire episode.

Okay, so what about us—the people who live sexy? Do we buck the trend that started in the 90’s, which many people feel was sparked by the porn industry? For most people in their twenties, a smooth, bald playground is the norm—they can’t conceive of anything but that. Privates are private and it’s a personal preference decision for women, providing you’re not a Hollywood actress. But for some of us, the pubes make an appearance in the public forum at Lifestyle events.

What is the sexiest grooming for the secret garden—full bush, landing strip, Brazilian or completely nude? Of course in trying to find the answer to this question, once more I turned to the internet. (What did people do before the internet? I’m sure this particular answer could not be found in the encyclopedia Britannica.) In my readings, most guys tended to answer that some trimming of the lawn is preferable. Many felt that complete hairlessness was not the best presentation but neither did they want to run their fingers through long, thick hair, unless it was on a woman’s head.

And what about men’s grooming downstairs? Once more, moderation seemed to be the key. Baldness around the penis may make a guy’s dick look bigger but the pre-pubescent base was not a turn-on for women. Rather short, trimmed hair seemed to be favored.

All of this reading caused me to consider the erotica which I write. There is never any description of hairy genitals, only slick, fully aroused labia lips, parted to reveal the little lady in the boat seeking immediate attention. Maybe it’s time that I gave aviation travel some attention by providing a landing strip. And guys’ missile launcher? Should I mention the neatly trimmed base and tank (testicles?) instead of concentrating on the thick, hard shaft? Let me tell you it’s erm…difficult not to. But I need to keep up with the times and the Guardian.

My personal opinion in this matter is that it will be a long time before we see the majority of women in the Lifestyle sporting the au natural look. Trimmed yes, but full unadorned garden, ala Demi Moore’s photo taken early in her career, not so much.

One thing that I do not agree with in the quest to be smooth and hairless is undergoing permanent solutions like laser hair removal. There may come a time that a woman could regret that decision. I’m a fan of moderation and choice.

Whether a woman’s mons is full bush, trimmed or contains just a strip of fluff, my preference is a smooth labia where the hottest sexual action is happening. Speaking from bi-sexual experience, I don’t want to do the ‘Larry David, pubic hair in the throat hacking’ and I am very visual. I like to see what I’m so apt to describe in my books—the slick, fully aroused pussy lips before I attend to the little woman in the boat with my tongue. And slipping my fingers into a slippery vagina…Let’s just say, hair pulling should only happen in BDSM.

What’s your opinion? Bald eagles or wooly mammoths?

 

Always,

Mia Moore

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Mia Moore Guest Post: Still In The Closet

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My dear husband Spike and I talk.

A lot.

Because of changes in our lives over the last six months or so, we’re in each other’s back pockets pretty much 24/ 7. Until, that is, when I send him toddling off to the supermarket grocery shopping. I hate grocery shopping. Spike hates paying bills, so we came to an arrangement.

This past week we met two absolutely wonderful people who are committed Lifestylers. They’re open about their choices, and they are so vivacious that a room lights up when they enter it. They are as positive advocates of the Lifestyle, as Matt and Amanda are here.

I believe that the world truly needs more people like our new friends, more people like Matt and Amanda.

Which, got me thinking about how issues of sexuality are still so deeply in the closet in the vanilla world. (Please note: I use the term vanilla more as a term of convenience. I define vanilla as adhering to conventional standards. I’m not being pejorative when I use the term. Just sayin’.)

Spike and I have vanilla friends and family members who are incredibly dear to us. We share Holiday celebrations, birthdays, graduations and other events that shape and define our lives. With our friends, we talk about everything.

Erm… almost  everything.

None of our vanilla friends know that Spike and I are Lifestylers. Not one.

A perfect example is this past New Year’s Eve. Instead of going to the one or two celebrations here at home we were invited to, we decided to spend it in Toronto with our closest Lifestyle friends at the O Zone. Obviously, we had a blast—so wonderful, I wrote a novella about it!

And yet…

Not only could I not share my book with my vanilla friends (they don’t know a thing about my writing), I couldn’t share my fantastic experience at the club with them either.

It’s Just Not Done, you know what I mean? I suspect many of you do.

Just what would happen were we to disclose our participation in the Lifestyle?

One thing I’m confident of is that our vanilla friends would look at us differently. I’d be concerned that they would become afraid that we were either hitting on them, or perhaps trying to recruit them in some way or another. Even if I’m mistaken, I nevertheless believe that they would in some way not view us at the same level of positive regard they now hold us in.

In many ways, alternative sexuality is still buried in the closet. Despite the legal acceptance of gay marriage in so many jurisdictions, there are many LGBT people who prefer not coming out. Let alone people who play in the BDSM world. And, sadly, couples (and yes, singles) like us who play in the swinging world. We keep it under wraps, well Spike and I do, because we don’t want to deal with negative fallout. Who needs the complications?

Upon reflection, I’m both puzzled and annoyed.

I’m puzzled because our sex drive is a fundamental human trait. We’re hard wired to get laid people! Seriously, we’re as hard wired for arousal and orgasm as much as we’re hard wired in other areas. Our brains want to satiate other desires of course. Our desire to satisfy hunger and thirst, a need for shelter and a bond with others is built in.

As is our need for sex.

From a media perspective, things have come a long way. I do realize that there is programming available across all media—not just online. The infamous Dr. Ruth Westhiemer was cutting edge back in the 80’s with her radio program ‘Sexually Speaking’. Here in Canada, Sue Johansson and ‘Sex With Sue’ was available on both radio and television. On cable TV, there’s a lot of interesting programming, of course.

However, this is what I’m thinking about. Yes, sexually oriented programming, whether it’s ‘how to’ sort of stuff, or just downright entertainment is available much more so today than ever in history. I get that. The number of available programs are dwarfed by the number of cooking shows, do it yourself renovation shows, or even decorating shows.

And there’s another aspect, and this is the annoying part.

The HBO series ‘Game Of Thrones’ just finished its fourth season last week. It had millions upon millions of viewers (including yours truly who is so hot for both Jamie Lannister and Jon Snow). The chatter on the internet, or even at checkout counters at stores was noticeable. Water cooler discussions I’m sure abounded. People had a lot to talk about.

And when friends at work, or friends at home were finished discussing this topic, they’d go off on other topics. Such as cooking, decorating, sports or dealing with the kids.

But not about sex.

It’s the 21st Century. And not only did we NOT get the flying cars, our society at large is quite hung up on being open about sex. It’s a taboo subject between friends for the most part.

And what do we lose in this environment?

I think a lot.

We trade opinions, insights and tips about recipes, car repair, sports events without hesitation. I have learned and shared knowledge, insights with my vanilla friends in so many areas that have enriched my life. In this sharing, our friendships in the vanilla world has deepened, no question.

I wonder just how improved would marriages and other committed relationships be in the vanilla world become if friends could share aspects of their sexuality as easily?

What if guys could talk about Erectile Dysfunction as easily with their buddies as they are able to discuss a golf swing or analyze the shellacking the Rangers sustained from LA in the Stanley Cup?

What if women could discuss vaginal dryness during intercourse with their co-workers with the same ease as they can share recipes for baked ziti?

I truly believe that when such an environment comes into being, the world will be a better place. Primary relationships will have another source of support. Friendships will become even more meaningful and deep. The shade of love we currently share with our friends in the vanilla world will become richer and more complex in its texture.

And I’m annoyed.

With myself–that I’m too chicken shit to be a part of that growth.

Always,

Mia Moore

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