Swinger 101

Here are a few points to ponder when starting to explore the Swinging Lifestyle.

  1. Starting out - Here, the internet really is your friend. There are plenty of GTA swinger dating sites online where interested couples can browse other couples, clubs and events, often by geographic location. Browsing together can help you both to learn about the adult club lifestyle, inspire conversation and instill a deeper bond between a couple.
  2. Communication is key in this lifestyle. You and your partner really need to have a candid conversation about expectations, what’s ok and what’s not, a safe word to extricate yourselves from an encounter if needed, and what limitations you might put on the open aspect of your relationship. Be prepared to compromise from time to time as needed, so both partners feel comfortable.
  3. Don’t try to persuade someone into doing something they aren’t ready for. Likewise, stand your ground and stick to what you and your partner agreed to before arriving at a party. It’s easy to blow by these limits in the heat of the moment, so be aware of that and stick to what was agreed upon for your first visit. Next time, you can add to the menu of delights.
  4. This lifestyle is very much about trust, especially in the early stages of exploration. Set up couple accounts on dating sites that you both have access to, both send and receive messages from and that you set up and fill out together. Having separate accounts breeds distrust and often causes issues, especially for couples just starting to explore.
  5. You’ve connected with someone or a couple online and you’re ready to meet, but how do you take it from ‘online’ to real time? It can be quite intimidating when you are new, and what happens if they don’t stand up to the image you have in your head? What if there is no attraction? If the other couple agree to meet you at a club like The O Zone and you don’t quite click, you can always strike up a conversation with another couple nearby and the whole evening isn’t a wash.
  6. Newcomers are usually nervous when they arrive at The O Zone for the first time, but that soon disappears as they join the party atmosphere. The play rooms are tucked away discretely and intimate play and nudity is discouraged in the social area to avoid making others uncomfortable who aren’t interested in the sexual aspect of our club. Plenty of small, intimate sitting areas offer a place to sit and observe, or strike up a conversation with another couple. And the DJ plays all the best music and the dance floor is always a hit with dance poles, go go booth and dance platforms.
  7. Because The O Zone lifestyle swingers club is designated as a Private Club, all attendees must be a ‘member’ and membership is included in your first visit. Legally, we must create a ‘members list’ for each event, so we collect first names only for this list at the door at each event. Even if you are a Platinum member (pre-paid membership for a pre determined time frame), you must stop at registration to be added to the list and for a wrist band. This keeps us within the legal boundaries and allows us to remain open.
  8. Leave your personal hang-up’s at home. Everyone has or perceives themselves as having flaws, and yours are no more pronounced than theirs are. No matter your size, age, ethnicity, shape or number of scars, there is likely someone at a swinger party who will enjoy your company. Be positive, accentuate your attributes and put your best foot forward. Negativity isn’t sexy, confidence is.
  9. Don’t be afraid to turn down the invitation of another couple to play if you aren’t feeling it. Be polite when you decline, saying something like “Wow! We are so flattered! We’d love to chat with you and be friends, but as far as play mates, we must decline.” There is no requirement for you to explain your reasons.
  10. Make safe choices. Use condoms to reduce the risks, as well as meeting potential playmates for the first time in a public place for the first meeting, whether for a drink at a bar or at a swing party or event.