Swinger Dictionary

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There are a lot of words used in the swinging Lifestyle that you may be unfamiliar with. Here are some of those, and an explanation.

Swingers – Non-monogamous people looking for sexual interaction, at least on some level, with others that are not their spouse. Swingers are most commonly committed or married couples, but singles can also partake in the swinging lifestyle.

Soft Swap – Meaning no penetrative sex, but most other sexual acts are open for negotiation, such as flirting, kissing, oral or mutual masturbation.

Full Swap – Interested in any or all sexual acts, including penetration.

Same Room – Couples who are interested in playing with others but in the same room where they can make eye contact with their partner.

Compersion – The opposite of jealousy. The feeling of excitement and fulfillment for your partner while they play with others.

Ellis (LS) – A universal way of asking another if they are swingers. “Do you know Ellis?” Some also use “Alice”, both sound like “LS”. LS = Lifestyle

Unicorn – A single, bisexual woman interested in playing with and having sex with couples.

Bull – A single man, usually well hung, who is interested in penetrative sex with women, often while the husband watches.

Cuckold – A married man who watches nearby as his wife has sex with another man, but usually does not become involved.

Hotwife – A wife who will have sex with other men, often while her husband is nearby. A hotwife is often insatiable, wanting and needing more sex than her partner.

Monogamish – A couple who attend events to flirt and meet others but rarely play might consider themselves ‘monogamish’, meaning mostly monogamous.

Swingle – A single that wishes to attend a couples event will invite a single of the opposite sex to attend with them, and they become ‘swingles’, even though they attend the event together.

Negotiation – Speaking clearly and plainly about what it is you are looking for, listening to what they want, and agreeing to a plan everyone likes.

Comet – A person that passes through your life quickly and is gone. Comets are popular on vacation, where you may not ever see them again.

Swinger Soup – A pool or hot tub that is full to capacity with swingers socializing, flirting and playing.

We hope this list helps you to understand some of the lingo used by swingers today, and that some potentially resonate with you!

Gemini Horoscope

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Gemini Birthday Bash – June 15, 2019

GEMINI
May 21 – June 21

GEMINI WOMEN: Often the aggressor; you are never embarrassed by your behavior because you never adhere to any standards except your own. Your main requirement: a lover who knows how to take his time. You are a one-woman harem, but a partner should be aware that in a relationship, the Gemini woman is looking for a combination of the spiritual and the physical, the romantic and the practical. You want to talk to the guy after you tumble with him! Best sex mates are Leo, Scorpio, Aquarians, Libra, and Aries. Favorite gadget: the vibrator.


GEMINI MEN: He likes it with the lights on in front of a mirror. He can work any partner in the mood because he knows exactly how to evoke the right responses. Oral sex isn’t his favorite pastime but will take his time with the other preliminaries. Tends to be fast and furious, more concerned with satisfying himself than his partner, but he is more than adequate in areas of lovemaking that are often neglected by other men. He can tell a woman exactly what she wants to hear. His erogenous zone: move your lips and tongue lightly up his arm. 

 

As your partner will tell you, you swing erratically between complete lethargy and wild passion. Clearly the latter leaves the better impression.
You tend to make your lovers wait until you feel like sex, but it is worth it, your fertile imagination invents unbelievable scenarios. You normally cast yourself in the leading role, but you are a generous lover, constantly aware of your partner’s pleasure.

Your sexual energy goes up and down according to your mood, your partner can certainly count on your unpredictability. You are just as likely to erupt like a volcano as you are to suddenly go off the boil.
Your imagination stimulates your sexual energy, Geminis need light, playful seduction and an enthusiastic, patient partner.

Imaginative Geminis love to fantasize but need to feel very comfortable with their lovers to talk about their desires. Your talent for communication and story-telling helps a lot…
With your natural curiosity, you’re always inventing new fantasies and come up with new ideas all the time. As long as you are both comfortable with it, you’ll try anything!

Which zodiac sign is the best lover? If you like smart people, try Gemini. To get anywhere with Gemini, you need to be intelligent and witty. They are flirtation masters and can sweep you off your feet with a single touch.

Gemini’s mental capacity makes for a creative lover, so you’ll never get bored. Make sure your Gemini doesn’t get bored with you either because they need constant change and excitement. Without it, they can become tactless toward you.

To seduce Gemini, flatter them and focus on their mind. Subtly compliment their smarts, ask their advice, and don’t forget to play up your own intelligence.

Turn Offs in Women in the Swing Lifestyle

I came across a Forum on a Swinger Dating site, and after running through more than 60 responses I figured this would be a good thing to consolidate and share with you!

The question is: What Turn Offs do you find in Women in the Lifestyle?

In most cases, I was unable to determine if it was a man or woman responding to the question, but at least a few were definitely female responses. I’m sure most of this list applies to turn-offs in women AND men, so guys, listen up too!

In the first category, these issues were mentioned often and were repeated by others.

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Bad Attitude

Predominant Turn Offs:
Poor, Pissy or Pretentious attitude, being rude
Poor hygiene, smelly/BO, smelling of smoke
Lying, spreading rumors, speaking poorly/rudely about others
Speaking badly about their own bodies, poor self-image

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A smelly habit

Things on the Secondary list were mentioned at least twice but not as often as the first group.

Secondary Turn Offs:
Clingy, jealousy, Drama Queens
Say they are ready but aren’t, can’t communicate what she wants
Strong perfume, heavy makeup, lipstick
Smelling of alcohol or cigarettes
Poor grooming, unshaved/unruly hair
Teasers, mind games
Lack of subtlety, pushy, rude, arrogance
Attention seekers, need to be center of attention
Being drunk or high

Honorable Mentions: (only mentioned in one response)
Fake nails, wigs/weaves
Jewelry like a Xmas tree
Ugly feet
Perfume and lipstick
“lacking a pulse”/dead fish

Funny that there is nothing in this list that state size, race, color, age, stretch marks, scars or any of the other hangups so many of us have are a turn-off. So perhaps the problem is our own and not that of the general swinger population. If you have low self-esteem, keep it to yourself.

It seems that most of this list is manageable, and are things one can change to make themselves more attractive. Check your attitude at the door, ditch the artificial scent (most prospective play partners would rather smell YOU than your perfume) and put your best foot forward! (of course, we can’t do anything about the feet we were born with. I think the “ugly feet” comment was probably from a foot fetishist!)

If you are new to this lifestyle, maybe this will help you in beginning your exploration.

Perhaps this insight will help you in your quest for marital bliss. Or at least swingers bliss!