While exploring your sexuality with your partner is one thing, deciding to try swinging is taking things to a completely new level. For this reason, checking out a swingers club and testing out the lifestyle is not something that you should take lightly. This is why it so important to talk with your partner about the pros and cons of getting involved in the scene.
If you are both legitimately interested in exploring your sexuality together and seeing what swinging can do for you as a couple, here are some things that you need to discuss to ensure you are on the same page:
1. Swinging Rules
All couples approach swinging and swingers clubs in their own unique way. Some are all in, while others take a more passive approach to the lifestyle. This is why it’s important to set some ground rules for how you will approach the lifestyle and engage with other couples.
2. Swinging Frequency
How often will you engage in swinging? Is it a once in a while things? A few times per month? All the time? Figure out what makes sense for you as a couple.
3. Swinging Limits
Setting limits is important, especially when it comes to engaging in sexual acts with other people. Is oral your limit? Sex while watching? Are you comfortable with your partner having sex without you being present? These are all things you need to discuss.
4. Swinging Fears and Concerns
Naturally, there will be some fear and reservation about getting involved in swinging. It’s important for you and your partner to get all your fears, thoughts and ideas out in the open. Also, make it a point to discuss deal breakers and situations that you are not comfortable with. Get everything out in the open.
Honesty is essential if you want to have a fun and enjoyable experience trying out swinging and going to the swingers club. Have an open and honest dialogue. This is what best ways for new couples to approach the lifestyle.