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Turn Offs in Women in the Swing Lifestyle

I came across a Forum on a Swinger Dating site, and after running through more than 60 responses I figured this would be a good thing to consolidate and share with you!

The question is: What Turn Offs do you find in Women in the Lifestyle?

In most cases, I was unable to determine if it was a man or woman responding to the question, but at least a few were definitely female responses. I’m sure most of this list applies to turn-offs in women AND men, so guys, listen up too!

In the first category, these issues were mentioned often and were repeated by others.

A row of smiling beings with one unhappy one

Bad Attitude

Predominant Turn Offs:
Poor, Pissy or Pretentious attitude, being rude
Poor hygiene, smelly/BO, smelling of smoke
Lying, spreading rumors, speaking poorly/rudely about others
Speaking badly about their own bodies, poor self-image

A woman in a hoodie smoking a cigarette

A smelly habit

Things on the Secondary list were mentioned at least twice but not as often as the first group.

Secondary Turn Offs:
Clingy, jealousy, Drama Queens
Say they are ready but aren’t, can’t communicate what she wants
Strong perfume, heavy makeup, lipstick
Smelling of alcohol or cigarettes
Poor grooming, unshaved/unruly hair
Teasers, mind games
Lack of subtlety, pushy, rude, arrogance
Attention seekers, need to be center of attention
Being drunk or high

Honorable Mentions: (only mentioned in one response)
Fake nails, wigs/weaves
Jewelry like a Xmas tree
Ugly feet
Perfume and lipstick
“lacking a pulse”/dead fish

Funny that there is nothing in this list that state size, race, color, age, stretch marks, scars or any of the other hangups so many of us have are a turn-off. So perhaps the problem is our own and not that of the general swinger population. If you have low self-esteem, keep it to yourself.

It seems that most of this list is manageable, and are things one can change to make themselves more attractive. Check your attitude at the door, ditch the artificial scent (most prospective play partners would rather smell YOU than your perfume) and put your best foot forward! (of course, we can’t do anything about the feet we were born with. I think the “ugly feet” comment was probably from a foot fetishist!)

If you are new to this lifestyle, maybe this will help you in beginning your exploration.

Perhaps this insight will help you in your quest for marital bliss. Or at least swingers bliss!

Admission Prices, Deals and Platinum Membership at The O Zone

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Wallet being squeezed in a vise.

Has inflation got you down? We understand that the rising costs of living are putting the squeeze on your wallet. That’s why The O Zone has created some admission deals to help reduce that squeeze. But first, let’s break down the fees.

Friday Night Admission

Couples – $40/couple – this includes Membership on your first visit
For Member Couples arriving before 10 pm – $20/couple
Single Ladies (Unicorns) – $10/unicorn
Select Single Gents – $60/gents – arrive before 11 pm – we only allow a small number of single guys to attend Friday evenings in an effort to keep the male/female ratio at a comfortable level for our member couples

Sat Night Admission

Couples – $60/couple – this includes Membership on your first visit
For Member Couples arriving before 10 pm – $40/couple
Single Ladies (Unicorns) – $10/unicorn
Single Gents – NA – we do not allow single men on Saturday evenings

SUPER & MEGA Parties

Approximately once a month, The O Zone hosts an Over the Top party.

SUPER Parties are $80/couple and $40/unicorns with no discount offered on these nights. SUPER Parties include Mardi Pardi and Monster Bash. New Year’s Eve has its own special pricing.

MEGA Parties are $60/couple and $30/unicorns with no discount offered on these nights. MEGA parties include Toga, Valentine’s, Easter, and Canada Day to name a few.

Sorry guys, Single Gents are not allowed at SUPER and MEGA Parties.

Hot Deals

There are 3 main Hot Deals at the time of this publication. Arrive on time and mention it at the front desk to be sure you get the best price!

Member Couples Arriving Before 10 pm: (previously referred to as 10B410)
Friday = $20/couple
Saturday = $40/couple
Sorry, no discount for singles

DP Party Pass

“Double Play” means you get both nights for the price of one! The only requirement is that you tell us on Friday night before you leave that you’ll be returning on Saturday night. We’ll put your name on the list, and your Saturday admission is covered! If you arrive on Friday night before 10 pm and pay only $20/couple, that means BOTH nights are just $20! What a deal!! In the case of a 3-day long weekend, all 3 parties for the price of your first evening.

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Details about DP Party Pass.

Birthday Bash

Every month we host an Astrological Sign by inviting all members celebrating a birthday that month to attend the Birthday party for free! The only requirement is that members flash their ID to prove their birth date, and the couple gets in for FREE!! Check here for upcoming dates!

Platinum Membership

While we’re talking about admission and deals, here’s an opportunity to save if you’re a Frequent Flyer at The O Zone. Members can purchase a Platinum Membership for 2, 6 or 12 months, which includes admission to all events (excluding NYE). Talk to the staff at the front desk about rates.
Occasionally, The O Zone offers Platinum Membership specials, such as $69 for 2 months. These are only available to purchase while at specific events only, so watch Social Media for details!

So there you have it: a break down of admission fees, membership, and some Hot Deals to reduce the stress on your finances! We’ll see you at The O Zone!

Attending The O Zone for the First Time? Some Timely Info!

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A woman at a club having a conversation.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just because a couple attend a swingers club or party does not necessarily label them as swingers, or indeed even interested in a non-monogamous exchange. In fact, many couples don’t swap at all, and only go to these events for their own benefits. That might be to:

  • reconnect with their partner
  • practice flirting
  • dress up in sexy outfits that they can’t wear anywhere else (costumes, lingerie)
  • Socialize with other sexy, like minded people
  • Fuel their own sexual energy
  • Increase confidence
  • See how other open minded married couples are expanding their horizons

 

One couple mentioned they go to The O Zone just so they don’t have to go to public bars or clubs and hang out with drunken young people where they might feel judged.

Communication is key here, not just with your partner but with anyone else who might be interested in you, socially or more. Talk to your partner before arriving and decide just what CAN happen on your first visit, whether that means ‘no touching others’ or ‘flirting is fine’, but clear communication is best.

You may not know what your reaction will be to seeing your partner interacting or flirting with others, so prearrange a signal that only your partner and you know that will let you express concern without alerting others to your issues.

Many couples decide to attend a swing party or club to help re-spark their sex life. It can certainly do this, but without care, it can also damage or end a long term relationship, so take it in baby steps: on your first visit, consider taking the first step only, which might be interacting sexually with your partner only. Watch others, talk about what you see, discuss with your partner the things you would like to try, dance, socialize, ask questions. On your second visit, take the next small step: maybe that’s flirting openly with others. Discuss this with your partner before making contact with others, just to be sure.

Jealousy is common in the swing community, so doing your best to keep that green eyed monster from rearing up goes a long way to protecting your relationship. Your partner should come first and foremost over any other interaction you might be able to engage in. Protect your marriage!

The respect and acceptance level of the guests who attend The O Zone parties makes everyone feel welcome and at ease, and if you have questions or concerns the owners and the Hosts are available to answer them and help you in whatever ways you need.

The club is large enough, with plenty of social areas, seating and a large dance floor so you can find your own perfect niche. Invite another couple to join you for a drink and chat away the evening, or wrap around each other and have a hot make out session. The club is there for you and your desires and only you know what those are. Be honest with yourself and your partner, communicate openly, and see where it might lead you! Good luck and enjoy!