Category Archives: Swingers Lifestyle

Holiday Gift Ideas for the Swinger in Your Life

Sexy lady in Santa Hat and a wrapped gift

Looking for Fun and Sexy Gift ideas for the swinger in your life? Here are a few ideas to get you started!

  • Pineapple anything: decor (pillows, wall decor, garden flag) – bonus points if it can be displayed upside down
  • Sexy attire: For her: lingerie, anything gauzy or see-thru, sexy costume, fishnet, sexy panties.
    For him: sexy underwear, dressy shirt – especially one that is textured (ladies are very tactile, this may instigate more contact), a sexy watch (great conversation starter)
  • Massage oil: there’s never enough oil for a sexy massage, so don’t run out!
  • Massage blanket: something you can use every time the oil comes out, because like silicone lubricant, it will stain fabric
  • Tickets to Valentines in Niagara – they fit in a stocking nicely and gives you 6 weeks to plan and invite all your friends
  • Beach towel: especially with a pineapple or something sexy on it, for all those hot tub parties you’ll be going to
  • Travel mug/glass: great to take to events or house parties, you’ll never forget which glass is yours. One with a lid keeps it clean and creates fewer spills
  • Fancy face mask. Swingers love Masquerade parties, and it’s great to have a unique mask that no one else will be wearing.
  • Tickets to The O Zone’s Midnight Masquerade NYE Gala – they will pair nicely with the mask!
  • Sex Toys: Many swingers travel to house or hotel parties, swing clubs, and conventions and take their toys with them. Why not? No one will judge!
  • Sex Toy Bag: Perhaps you have outgrown your Travel Toy Bag – a new, bigger bag may be in order!
  • An extension cord to add to the toy bag if any of your toys require electricity – alternately: a wireless charging device for rechargeable toys
  • Lubricants and condoms: Most parties and clubs supply basic lube and condoms, but if you prefer a specific brand, why not gift them? Then you’re ready to roll to your next Swinger destination! Note: Silicone lube is great, but ruins linens: don’t use silicone lube in a hotel room, at a club or someone else’s home – they will thank you!
  • Bling for her: nipple pasties, shiny jewelry, waist chain, etc. It’ll get her noticed at the next event!
  • Spa gift certificate: she’ll love being pampered and will feel special and extra pretty after the visit. It might be good to combine with tickets to an event, like Valentines’ in Niagara!
  • Dance lessons: something you can do together that will get you both on the dance floor at the club. That kind of confidence is super sexy and will gain you many admirers!
  • Attend a sex workshop at your local sex shop and surprise her with what you’ve learned. Or go as a couple, depending on the topic.
  • Waterproof blanket – great for squirters or those who enjoy extra slippery play with lube/oil
  • Sexy, boudoir photoshoot – you can give them as a gift all at the same time, or disperse them one or two at a time, and have several as a backup for birthday, anniversary, Christmas and Valentines, as well as other ‘just because’ times.
  • Hire someone to come in and cook a romantic meal for the two of you, have a candlelit dinner together

There are so many sexy, naughty, personal gifts you can give that Special Someone in your life. Use your imagination, consider what that person would most appreciate and go from there. Good luck finding just the right gift!

How to “Dress To Impress” for Men

Man adjusting his collar of a suit jacket

What we wear to a Lifestyle event sets the tone for an evening out when meeting new people. Wearing comfortable street clothes can tell others that you couldn’t be bothered to dress up for the occasion, and that might translate into others thinking you might not be the most dynamic lover. On the other hand, dressing up and paying attention to details can communicate to others that you are an attentive lover with an eye on detail. It’s all in the perception.

Of course, at a house or pool party, the dress code may call for casual clothing, so do consider that. But at classier house, hotel and private parties, and especially at swinger clubs, the “Dress to Impress” credo is important to follow if you want to impress and connect with others.

We found a forum post on swingersboard.com that talks about this, so we thought we’d use it as a basis for this blog post. You can see the whole thread here, but the following excerpts are taken from there, as we thought the poster had some great advice for men! Of course, we added our own input as well to round out the topic.

First, things to avoid when ‘Dressing to Impress’.

  • Running shoes. If you wear them to the grocery store, to cut the grass or to walk the dog, it’s not appropriate. We also suggest avoiding flip flops and cheap sandals, as this does not read as ‘sexy’, just ‘comfortable’.
  • Ball caps. Even if you wear a hat daily or it’s your favorite team, leave it at home. If you must wear a hat, make it fun and creative, like a fedora. It will cover your bald spot just as well and could be a good conversation starter.
  • Especially worn, torn and/or faded denim. Again, if you lounge around your home in them, cut the grass or go camping in them, they are not for the club. The only jeans you should consider – and again, we suggest you just avoid denim altogether as it is not a dressy material – would be designer jeans that fit you properly.

Now, on to the great suggestions:

  • Shoes. These are your foundation. They should be comfortable (nothing sexy about a grimacing face on the dance floor), and easy to move in. Leather or suede show class and taste, although many men’s shoe choices are fabric now. Choices could be: dress shoes, or on-trend slip-ons, chukka’s, ankle boots and the like are a start.
  • Socks. They need to have been purchased sometime in the last 2 years. Don’t be afraid of colors, and fun patterns that can also be a good conversation starter. Black shoes = black/grey/navy base socks. Brown shoes = brown/tan/earth tone socks.

Brown leather mens shoes and a matching belt

  • Belt. Should RELATE to the shoe color. Leather is best. Wider belts on less dressy pants and even jeans can elevate the look. Bling or a fun buckle can be good, but don’t go overboard with size or flash. Subtle is better. And hey, this could have the ladies looking down at your crotch. That can’t be a bad thing!
  • Underwear. Bought in the last year. Don’t be afraid to go with bold colors or prints. Black is a sure bet and looks great on everyone. Try fitted ‘boy shorts’ or boxer briefs with a little elastic in the fabric to keep its shape. These really hug the boys, give support and look great when flaccid or aroused. Boxers may be more comfortable, but not nearly so sexy when disrobing in the playroom. And let’s face it… you love it when she’s wearing something sexy under that dress…. why not have a sexy surprise for her too?
  • Pants. Lots of options here, in color, fabric, and cut. Avoid denim as previously stated. Pleated fronts are not flattering and make the wearer balloon out unnaturally in the middle, creating an unflattering profile. Flat front pants are more flattering on more body types. Casual chic dress slacks that aren’t business focused are everywhere these days and look great. Dress flat-front Khaki’s in non-tan colors are popular and look good. A slack with some pattern that is subtle can also be nice. If you’re only going to get one pair, black goes with everything. But colors can be fun too: reds, burgundy, greens, dark brown, etc.
  • Shirts. Way more options here. Dress To Impress usually implies a shirt with a collar, so avoid T-shirts. Think non-button-down collared dress shirts (the kind without buttons on the collar), which can be suit dressy, or casual without a tie. Our original poster suggests avoiding Polo shirts, even though they are collared, as they belong on the golf course. But, if the choice is between a T and a Polo, then go with the collar. Another suggestion is a black stretch T, which means ‘fitted’, under an open, button-down knit. This adds a nice layered effect and can hide a few extra pounds. Consider wearing something that has a slight texture to it. The ladies may be drawn to touch it, and who doesn’t like a little contact
  • Jacket. Weather will dictate this. Try a nice, unstructured blazer. The fit is key, guys. Don’t go a size larger, as this just reads as ‘dumpy’.
  • Accessorize. Have a nice watch? Wear it, it speaks volumes. Most people use their phones as their timepiece, but in a busy club many people won’t have theirs on hand, so this could be a good ice breaker. “Excuse me, do you have the time?”
  • Finishing Touches. (directly from the original post, cuz hey! We agree wholeheartedly!) “Your feet are self-pedicured. Your fingernails are clean, clipped close, and looking good. You are always shower fresh and not heavily fragranced. And your oral hygiene (that means floss and tongue scraper) is impeccable.”

A man who dresses sharply and takes pride in his appearance translates to ‘this is a man who cares about his partner and will pay attention to detail in his lovemaking too.’ We assure you, the ladies will take notice!

Libra Horoscope

Libra sign depicted in blue against a black background

LIBRA
September 23 – October 22

LIBRA WOMEN: Drama is the keyword – you set the stage for sex. Intensely feminine and an instinctive exhibitionist. You feel your body was made to be seen and admired. Feel that seduction is an art, not an assault. When approached the right way, you find it easy to say yes to almost anything. Unusual control of vaginal muscles. Best sex mates: Aries, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius, and Aquarius. Like any position where your buttocks are exposed.



LIBRA MEN: Looks for the whole experience, not just a tumble between the sheets. Has a definite kinky side, a voyeur and fond of the ménage a trois. He has the patience needed to satisfy. He likes women who dress well and have long hair. If a woman’s clothes look as though they are easily removed, he finds her hard to ignore. Erogenous zone: back and buttocks, especially the feel of erect nipples against either of them!

Behind your discreet elegance, which seems to dare anyone to touch you, hides a warm and expressive sensuality – Librans know their bodies and do not deny them anything. Your demands are clear: a lover who is your equal, a refined professional who will give you the dinner and candlelight treatment you always fall for, and sparkling conversation for intellectual stimulation. You get bored easily and are wise enough to realize that you need someone capable of holding your attention.

Your energy comes from your wish to please and your secret desire to conquer the competition, proving that you are the most attractive person in the game. Fortunately for the poor souls who fall at your feet, this gives you a strong sexual energy. You are sexy, using your languorous tone of voice to mesmerize your victims.

Your fantasies are closely-guarded secrets, only divulged to a privileged few who you feel comfortable with. You have very specific tastes, tenderness, and toughness in equal measures and are not averse to a little light bondage of an evening. Certainly not with just anyone, you choose your lovers carefully for their rugged charm, humor and silver tongue. Despite all the secrecy, your favorite fantasy is the tenderness with which you expect you’re chosen one to treat you to prove his love.

As a people pleaser, Libra makes a very attentive and affectionate lover. They are full of sentimental romantic notions, so be patient with them and try to fulfill their fantasies. Since Libra is a natural flirt, they like to try fun experiments in bed.

To seduce Libra, give them good old-fashioned high-class romance. You need to be sophisticated, suave, and smooth. Since Libra is naturally attractive, it shouldn’t be hard to show them a good time with style.