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Valentine’s in Niagara Q&A

Poster for Valentines In Niagara, Feb 7-9, 2020

We understand you may have some questions about Valentine’s in Niagara, as so many couples do. Don’t worry, you are not alone! We’ll try to answer some of those questions here and alleviate your stress.

Q: What hotel is VIN hosted in?
A: We don’t disclose this information publicly, for the comfort and safety of our guests. This should help keep unregistered guests from just showing up to have a look. Please do not disclose the location to anyone.

Q: When will we find out then?
A: The week before the event we will send out an email with all the pertinent information you’ll need to find us and get settled in.

Q: We see that the hotel is sold out. What can we do if we still want to attend?
A: We do sell a limited number of Couples Passes. You are welcome to stay elsewhere and attend the events each day. Please drink responsibly if you need to leave at the end of the evening.

Q: We can’t attend the entire event. Can we just come for Saturday nights entertainment and dance?
A: No, we want to keep this as a vacation feel where all attendees are there for the entire weekend. Selling passes to just some of the events will surely change the feel of the event.

Q: We are new to the Lifestyle and aren’t ready to swap yet. Will we be outsiders?
A: Nope! There are plenty of couples who attend VIN who are there for the sexy atmosphere and to reconnect with their partner while making friends and enjoying the rest of what VIN Has to offer: entertainment, sexual education, and a fun, flirty atmosphere. There are hundreds of couples at VIN, and each are individual with their own goals and interests for the weekend.

Q: What food options are there at VIN?
A: You can BYOFood and eat in your room. There is a mini-fridge in every room. There is a grocery store very near the hotel, as well as several fast food options nearby: McDonald’s, Tim Horton’s, Pizza and several others within a block or two of the hotel.
The hotel has a restaurant on-site, which is open to the public so if you do go there, please dress and act appropriately.
Lastly, the hotel offers a buffet, served in the Courtyard. Just $134/pp (til Jan 30, $144 after) and includes weekend parking, 2 dinners, 2 breakfasts, 1 lunch, 5 drinks per day, and late-night snacks. Call the hotel directly to book, or do so when checking in on Friday of VIN. (info for this will be in your email)

Q: What should we wear?
A: The pool and hot tubs are clothing optional. If you are naked, please sit on a towel.
We cover all exterior windows on the main floor (including the lobby) so our guests can dress in whatever way they wish. Most dress provocatively throughout the weekend, in sexy attire, costumes and various stages of undress. Daytime is more casual and we see everything from comfortable street clothes like cutoff jean shorts and short skirts to panties and nothing else. A lot of the ladies go topless or wear pasties, jewelry, etc. In the evening, most people dress in theme for the dance parties (Fri = Red & Glitz. Sat = Mardi Gras – Green, Gold, and Purple)…short skirts and plunging necklines, lingerie, bra/panties, and less. Remember, at Saturday nights Mardi Gras party we hand out hundreds of strands of beads to the guys, so when the ladies flash them, they receive beads, so wear something that’s easy to flash your tits if that’s your thing.

Q: Do we need to sign up for the seminars and workshops?
A: Not for any of the FREE ones! Just arrive at the designated start time and location, take a seat and join in! Some request being on time… please don’t arrive late for these.
We also have several PAID workshops and those you will need to pre-register/pay for as they have very limited space. These will be listed in the email you will get the week before the event with contact info, so feel free to reach out to the presenters ahead of time, either with questions or to register. The presenters will have an info table set up at VIN on Friday afternoon, so feel free to visit and chat with them there as well.

Q: As newbies, we don’t know what to expect. Will we see orgies and sex everywhere?
A: The hotel prefers that we play in the rooms or the playrooms, for hygienic reasons. We agree with this as we understand that this might make some of our VIN attendees uncomfortable (new or old). We love sexy talk and flirty fun in the public areas, but when it’s time to get busy, please find a room to play in and leave the public areas. If you WANT to see or be part of an orgy or group play, the playroom on the 4th floor has plenty of beds in one room, open 9pm – 4am.

Q: Feels weird to be at an LS hotel takeover with the staff wandering around. What’s that like?
A: I asked one of the staff a couple of years ago how the staff feel about this event. They all really love our group. She said they draw straws to see who GETS to work the weekend.  Part of why they like us so much is the respect we have for their space and staff.

We hope that by answering these questions, you’ll feel more comfortable attending VIN and see that you’ll fit right in, no matter where you are on your hedonistic journey!

Holiday Gift Ideas for the Swinger in Your Life

Sexy lady in Santa Hat and a wrapped gift

Looking for Fun and Sexy Gift ideas for the swinger in your life? Here are a few ideas to get you started!

  • Pineapple anything: decor (pillows, wall decor, garden flag) – bonus points if it can be displayed upside down
  • Sexy attire: For her: lingerie, anything gauzy or see-thru, sexy costume, fishnet, sexy panties.
    For him: sexy underwear, dressy shirt – especially one that is textured (ladies are very tactile, this may instigate more contact), a sexy watch (great conversation starter)
  • Massage oil: there’s never enough oil for a sexy massage, so don’t run out!
  • Massage blanket: something you can use every time the oil comes out, because like silicone lubricant, it will stain fabric
  • Tickets to Valentines in Niagara – they fit in a stocking nicely and gives you 6 weeks to plan and invite all your friends
  • Beach towel: especially with a pineapple or something sexy on it, for all those hot tub parties you’ll be going to
  • Travel mug/glass: great to take to events or house parties, you’ll never forget which glass is yours. One with a lid keeps it clean and creates fewer spills
  • Fancy face mask. Swingers love Masquerade parties, and it’s great to have a unique mask that no one else will be wearing.
  • Tickets to The O Zone’s Midnight Masquerade NYE Gala – they will pair nicely with the mask!
  • Sex Toys: Many swingers travel to house or hotel parties, swing clubs, and conventions and take their toys with them. Why not? No one will judge!
  • Sex Toy Bag: Perhaps you have outgrown your Travel Toy Bag – a new, bigger bag may be in order!
  • An extension cord to add to the toy bag if any of your toys require electricity – alternately: a wireless charging device for rechargeable toys
  • Lubricants and condoms: Most parties and clubs supply basic lube and condoms, but if you prefer a specific brand, why not gift them? Then you’re ready to roll to your next Swinger destination! Note: Silicone lube is great, but ruins linens: don’t use silicone lube in a hotel room, at a club or someone else’s home – they will thank you!
  • Bling for her: nipple pasties, shiny jewelry, waist chain, etc. It’ll get her noticed at the next event!
  • Spa gift certificate: she’ll love being pampered and will feel special and extra pretty after the visit. It might be good to combine with tickets to an event, like Valentines’ in Niagara!
  • Dance lessons: something you can do together that will get you both on the dance floor at the club. That kind of confidence is super sexy and will gain you many admirers!
  • Attend a sex workshop at your local sex shop and surprise her with what you’ve learned. Or go as a couple, depending on the topic.
  • Waterproof blanket – great for squirters or those who enjoy extra slippery play with lube/oil
  • Sexy, boudoir photoshoot – you can give them as a gift all at the same time, or disperse them one or two at a time, and have several as a backup for birthday, anniversary, Christmas and Valentines, as well as other ‘just because’ times.
  • Hire someone to come in and cook a romantic meal for the two of you, have a candlelit dinner together

There are so many sexy, naughty, personal gifts you can give that Special Someone in your life. Use your imagination, consider what that person would most appreciate and go from there. Good luck finding just the right gift!

How to “Dress To Impress” for Men

Man adjusting his collar of a suit jacket

What we wear to a Lifestyle event sets the tone for an evening out when meeting new people. Wearing comfortable street clothes can tell others that you couldn’t be bothered to dress up for the occasion, and that might translate into others thinking you might not be the most dynamic lover. On the other hand, dressing up and paying attention to details can communicate to others that you are an attentive lover with an eye on detail. It’s all in the perception.

Of course, at a house or pool party, the dress code may call for casual clothing, so do consider that. But at classier house, hotel and private parties, and especially at swinger clubs, the “Dress to Impress” credo is important to follow if you want to impress and connect with others.

We found a forum post on swingersboard.com that talks about this, so we thought we’d use it as a basis for this blog post. You can see the whole thread here, but the following excerpts are taken from there, as we thought the poster had some great advice for men! Of course, we added our own input as well to round out the topic.

First, things to avoid when ‘Dressing to Impress’.

  • Running shoes. If you wear them to the grocery store, to cut the grass or to walk the dog, it’s not appropriate. We also suggest avoiding flip flops and cheap sandals, as this does not read as ‘sexy’, just ‘comfortable’.
  • Ball caps. Even if you wear a hat daily or it’s your favorite team, leave it at home. If you must wear a hat, make it fun and creative, like a fedora. It will cover your bald spot just as well and could be a good conversation starter.
  • Especially worn, torn and/or faded denim. Again, if you lounge around your home in them, cut the grass or go camping in them, they are not for the club. The only jeans you should consider – and again, we suggest you just avoid denim altogether as it is not a dressy material – would be designer jeans that fit you properly.

Now, on to the great suggestions:

  • Shoes. These are your foundation. They should be comfortable (nothing sexy about a grimacing face on the dance floor), and easy to move in. Leather or suede show class and taste, although many men’s shoe choices are fabric now. Choices could be: dress shoes, or on-trend slip-ons, chukka’s, ankle boots and the like are a start.
  • Socks. They need to have been purchased sometime in the last 2 years. Don’t be afraid of colors, and fun patterns that can also be a good conversation starter. Black shoes = black/grey/navy base socks. Brown shoes = brown/tan/earth tone socks.

Brown leather mens shoes and a matching belt

  • Belt. Should RELATE to the shoe color. Leather is best. Wider belts on less dressy pants and even jeans can elevate the look. Bling or a fun buckle can be good, but don’t go overboard with size or flash. Subtle is better. And hey, this could have the ladies looking down at your crotch. That can’t be a bad thing!
  • Underwear. Bought in the last year. Don’t be afraid to go with bold colors or prints. Black is a sure bet and looks great on everyone. Try fitted ‘boy shorts’ or boxer briefs with a little elastic in the fabric to keep its shape. These really hug the boys, give support and look great when flaccid or aroused. Boxers may be more comfortable, but not nearly so sexy when disrobing in the playroom. And let’s face it… you love it when she’s wearing something sexy under that dress…. why not have a sexy surprise for her too?
  • Pants. Lots of options here, in color, fabric, and cut. Avoid denim as previously stated. Pleated fronts are not flattering and make the wearer balloon out unnaturally in the middle, creating an unflattering profile. Flat front pants are more flattering on more body types. Casual chic dress slacks that aren’t business focused are everywhere these days and look great. Dress flat-front Khaki’s in non-tan colors are popular and look good. A slack with some pattern that is subtle can also be nice. If you’re only going to get one pair, black goes with everything. But colors can be fun too: reds, burgundy, greens, dark brown, etc.
  • Shirts. Way more options here. Dress To Impress usually implies a shirt with a collar, so avoid T-shirts. Think non-button-down collared dress shirts (the kind without buttons on the collar), which can be suit dressy, or casual without a tie. Our original poster suggests avoiding Polo shirts, even though they are collared, as they belong on the golf course. But, if the choice is between a T and a Polo, then go with the collar. Another suggestion is a black stretch T, which means ‘fitted’, under an open, button-down knit. This adds a nice layered effect and can hide a few extra pounds. Consider wearing something that has a slight texture to it. The ladies may be drawn to touch it, and who doesn’t like a little contact
  • Jacket. Weather will dictate this. Try a nice, unstructured blazer. The fit is key, guys. Don’t go a size larger, as this just reads as ‘dumpy’.
  • Accessorize. Have a nice watch? Wear it, it speaks volumes. Most people use their phones as their timepiece, but in a busy club many people won’t have theirs on hand, so this could be a good ice breaker. “Excuse me, do you have the time?”
  • Finishing Touches. (directly from the original post, cuz hey! We agree wholeheartedly!) “Your feet are self-pedicured. Your fingernails are clean, clipped close, and looking good. You are always shower fresh and not heavily fragranced. And your oral hygiene (that means floss and tongue scraper) is impeccable.”

A man who dresses sharply and takes pride in his appearance translates to ‘this is a man who cares about his partner and will pay attention to detail in his lovemaking too.’ We assure you, the ladies will take notice!