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A Hotel Takeover that celebrates sexuality and Freedom of Expression

Poster with pink lips holding a candy heart that says Valentines in Niagara and booking details

Valentine’s in Niagara Feb 1 – 3, 2019

 

It’s nearly time for Valentine’s In Niagara again! Feb 1-3, 2019! For 12 years, TABOTA has been hosting this complete hotel takeover in beautiful and romantic Niagara Falls, ON and this year is no different! The exact location is not disclosed publicly for security reasons but is given to registered attendees of the event only.

Last year was completely sold out, and hundreds of sexually open-minded couples converged from all over North America for this epic weekend to celebrate their sexual diversity.

The hotel boasts a tropical paradise with indoor pool and hot tub area (both clothing optional), courtyard with plenty of seating, and a restaurant on premise for a quick, delicious meal to keep attendees fueled for the fun night ahead. Feel free to bring along whatever food you might like to consume in your room over the weekend otherwise, as there is a fridge in every room. A cash bar is conveniently located in the courtyard as well, or bring your own alcohol and pour from your room. Don’t forget a plastic, To Go cup to carry your beverage with you while you hang out with other guests or attend one of the many scheduled events happening over the weekend.

They offer several room types, including rooms that open directly into the courtyard where all the action happens. There is a Room Door decorating contest and this really helps set the mood for the entire weekend right from the moment attendees arrive, seeing these decorations as they make their way to their own room. TABOTA itself does a fair amount of decorating as well, making the location their own with splashes of red hearts everywhere, reflecting Valentine’s theme.

Themed dance parties each night, contests and mixers are highlights of the weekend, which are rounded out with live entertainment on Saturday evening, and workshops, demos, and seminars on sexy topics throughout the day. In the evenings, there are 2 playrooms available for group activities, including one kinky playroom ready for whatever shade of gray you’re into.

Many attendees are swingers or open to non-monogamous play, but this event is attended by many open-minded, monogamous couples looking for something just a little more than what they share now. VIN, just like The O Zone, is attracting those committed couples who are looking for ways to spice up their sex life in non-conventional ways, and Valentine’s in Niagara gives them the anonymity to explore with little chance of meeting someone they know.

If this is you, don’t worry, we understand your trepidation. But please know, it’s not likely how you envision it. While there is plenty of flirting and sexiness happening, there is no expectation that you do anything you aren’t up for. Sit in the hot tub and watch others flirt and kiss, listen to the erotic and frank conversations around you and dance the night away next to other sexy couples there for exactly the same reason: to feel sexy and have fun with their partner!

If you and your partner wish to explore further, that’s between the two of you. Have a frank and honest conversation, set some limits that keep you both comfortable, then get out there and explore! Have more questions about VIN? Check out the FAQ page for answers.

We’ll see you at Valentines in Niagara!!

www.valentinesinniagara.com

Poster for New Years Eve at The O Zone

New Years Eve at The O Zone!

The end of 2018 is fast approaching! What happened to summer? And fall for that matter? And with all the excitement of the holiday season, have you decided what you’ll be doing for New Years eve yet?

Christmas is for family, no doubt. But New Years Eve is traditionally a time to spend with your loved one, celebrating the coming of a new year with all it’s possibilities. A time to reflect on the past year and checking off the things you managed to do, and moving the untouched To Do list to the new year. I’m not talking about fixing the roof or shopping for that next big ticket item. I’m talking about reconnecting with your sweetheart, rekindling that sexy vibe you used to enjoy, and trying new, sexy, exciting things!

If nothing else, you should reward yourselves for getting thru yet another Christmas with the in-laws, shopping, baking, gift returns and holiday meals made to feed the entire, extended family. It’s time to let loose a little, put on your sexiest little black (or red or gold or…) dress, step onto the dance floor and let your inhibitions slide away for an evening.

A bottle of champagne in an ice bucket

Celebrate New Years with champagne on us!

New Years Eve at The O Zone is designed to celebrate the biggest night of the year, and you don’t have to do a thing except join in the fun! Delicious appetizers and food served all night, 3 bars to quench your thirst, and a dance floor with sound and lights to get you up and movin’ your groove. Expect streamers and a huge balloon drop on the dance floor at midnight as well as champagne for all attendees, and we even have beautiful La Senza masks for the first 100 ladies thru the door. And did I mention, TWO professional body painters?! Wow!! 

And when the frenzy of dance, movement and flirting get the best of you, there are 2 large playrooms with plenty of play space and many beds awaiting you. Be a voyeur and watch others while you play (no standing around the playrooms to just watch… that’s just creepy!) or show off your best moves where others can see. And when it’s all done at 4 am…. Breakfast in Bed for 400 people!!!

So, I ask again…. what are YOU doing for New Years Eve??

Attending The O Zone for the First Time? Some Timely Info!

Image of woman holding glass of wine.

A woman at a club having a conversation.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just because a couple attend a swingers club or party does not necessarily label them as swingers, or indeed even interested in a non-monogamous exchange. In fact, many couples don’t swap at all, and only go to these events for their own benefits. That might be to:

  • reconnect with their partner
  • practice flirting
  • dress up in sexy outfits that they can’t wear anywhere else (costumes, lingerie)
  • Socialize with other sexy, like minded people
  • Fuel their own sexual energy
  • Increase confidence
  • See how other open minded married couples are expanding their horizons

 

One couple mentioned they go to The O Zone just so they don’t have to go to public bars or clubs and hang out with drunken young people where they might feel judged.

Communication is key here, not just with your partner but with anyone else who might be interested in you, socially or more. Talk to your partner before arriving and decide just what CAN happen on your first visit, whether that means ‘no touching others’ or ‘flirting is fine’, but clear communication is best.

You may not know what your reaction will be to seeing your partner interacting or flirting with others, so prearrange a signal that only your partner and you know that will let you express concern without alerting others to your issues.

Many couples decide to attend a swing party or club to help re-spark their sex life. It can certainly do this, but without care, it can also damage or end a long term relationship, so take it in baby steps: on your first visit, consider taking the first step only, which might be interacting sexually with your partner only. Watch others, talk about what you see, discuss with your partner the things you would like to try, dance, socialize, ask questions. On your second visit, take the next small step: maybe that’s flirting openly with others. Discuss this with your partner before making contact with others, just to be sure.

Jealousy is common in the swing community, so doing your best to keep that green eyed monster from rearing up goes a long way to protecting your relationship. Your partner should come first and foremost over any other interaction you might be able to engage in. Protect your marriage!

The respect and acceptance level of the guests who attend The O Zone parties makes everyone feel welcome and at ease, and if you have questions or concerns the owners and the Hosts are available to answer them and help you in whatever ways you need.

The club is large enough, with plenty of social areas, seating and a large dance floor so you can find your own perfect niche. Invite another couple to join you for a drink and chat away the evening, or wrap around each other and have a hot make out session. The club is there for you and your desires and only you know what those are. Be honest with yourself and your partner, communicate openly, and see where it might lead you! Good luck and enjoy!