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Swinger Dictionary

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There are a lot of words used in the swinging Lifestyle that you may be unfamiliar with. Here are some of those, and an explanation.

Swingers – Non-monogamous people looking for sexual interaction, at least on some level, with others that are not their spouse. Swingers are most commonly committed or married couples, but singles can also partake in the swinging lifestyle.

Soft Swap – Meaning no penetrative sex, but most other sexual acts are open for negotiation, such as flirting, kissing, oral or mutual masturbation.

Full Swap – Interested in any or all sexual acts, including penetration.

Same Room – Couples who are interested in playing with others but in the same room where they can make eye contact with their partner.

Compersion – The opposite of jealousy. The feeling of excitement and fulfillment for your partner while they play with others.

Ellis (LS) – A universal way of asking another if they are swingers. “Do you know Ellis?” Some also use “Alice”, both sound like “LS”. LS = Lifestyle

Unicorn – A single, bisexual woman interested in playing with and having sex with couples.

Bull – A single man, usually well hung, who is interested in penetrative sex with women, often while the husband watches.

Cuckold – A married man who watches nearby as his wife has sex with another man, but usually does not become involved.

Hotwife – A wife who will have sex with other men, often while her husband is nearby. A hotwife is often insatiable, wanting and needing more sex than her partner.

Monogamish – A couple who attend events to flirt and meet others but rarely play might consider themselves ‘monogamish’, meaning mostly monogamous.

Swingle – A single that wishes to attend a couples event will invite a single of the opposite sex to attend with them, and they become ‘swingles’, even though they attend the event together.

Negotiation – Speaking clearly and plainly about what it is you are looking for, listening to what they want, and agreeing to a plan everyone likes.

Comet – A person that passes through your life quickly and is gone. Comets are popular on vacation, where you may not ever see them again.

Swinger Soup – A pool or hot tub that is full to capacity with swingers socializing, flirting and playing.

We hope this list helps you to understand some of the lingo used by swingers today, and that some potentially resonate with you!

Turn Offs in Women in the Swing Lifestyle

I came across a Forum on a Swinger Dating site, and after running through more than 60 responses I figured this would be a good thing to consolidate and share with you!

The question is: What Turn Offs do you find in Women in the Lifestyle?

In most cases, I was unable to determine if it was a man or woman responding to the question, but at least a few were definitely female responses. I’m sure most of this list applies to turn-offs in women AND men, so guys, listen up too!

In the first category, these issues were mentioned often and were repeated by others.

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Bad Attitude

Predominant Turn Offs:
Poor, Pissy or Pretentious attitude, being rude
Poor hygiene, smelly/BO, smelling of smoke
Lying, spreading rumors, speaking poorly/rudely about others
Speaking badly about their own bodies, poor self-image

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A smelly habit

Things on the Secondary list were mentioned at least twice but not as often as the first group.

Secondary Turn Offs:
Clingy, jealousy, Drama Queens
Say they are ready but aren’t, can’t communicate what she wants
Strong perfume, heavy makeup, lipstick
Smelling of alcohol or cigarettes
Poor grooming, unshaved/unruly hair
Teasers, mind games
Lack of subtlety, pushy, rude, arrogance
Attention seekers, need to be center of attention
Being drunk or high

Honorable Mentions: (only mentioned in one response)
Fake nails, wigs/weaves
Jewelry like a Xmas tree
Ugly feet
Perfume and lipstick
“lacking a pulse”/dead fish

Funny that there is nothing in this list that state size, race, color, age, stretch marks, scars or any of the other hangups so many of us have are a turn-off. So perhaps the problem is our own and not that of the general swinger population. If you have low self-esteem, keep it to yourself.

It seems that most of this list is manageable, and are things one can change to make themselves more attractive. Check your attitude at the door, ditch the artificial scent (most prospective play partners would rather smell YOU than your perfume) and put your best foot forward! (of course, we can’t do anything about the feet we were born with. I think the “ugly feet” comment was probably from a foot fetishist!)

If you are new to this lifestyle, maybe this will help you in beginning your exploration.

Perhaps this insight will help you in your quest for marital bliss. Or at least swingers bliss!

Taurus Birthday Bash! Free for all Taurus members with ID!

At The O Zone Toronto, we want our guests to celebrate their Birthdays in style! We have a Birthday party every month, and Taurus Night is on Sat. May 11th, along with Amanda’s B’day Bash!! Bring your ID for FREE couples admission (for you and your partner) this night! We’ll help you celebrate in style! Bring your friends!

Image of a blue bull on black background, depicting Taurus, the astrological sign.

Taurus Birthday Bash Sat May 11, 2019

TAURUS
April 20 – May 20
TAURUS WOMEN: You expect your man to be kind and patient and make love to you by the book.
Like to be pleased by sex, but don’t look for unusual approaches. But you are a demanding lover and leave your partner breathless. You have a need for oral gratification, both giving and receiving. Best sex mates: Cancer, Sagittarius, Scorpio, and Leo. Most likely kink: sucking on your toes, one by one. You also like biting…hmmm!
TAURUS MEN: He is the ideal lover – sensitive and understanding of his partners’ feelings. He prefers it slow and easy; he won’t be your guide to the exotic unknown, but what he does, he does beautifully. This is the guy to go for long and luxurious oral sex. Stamina? This man could wear down a glacier! His erogenous zone: gently and slowly kiss and bite the back of his neck.
Behind your Material Girl facade lies the most sensual sign of the Zodiac. You have a soft, sweet appeal, with porcelain skin and curves that a Flemish painter would die for. Your generous nature makes you a considerate lover.
You have a hearty sexual appetite but are fiercely faithful to your lovers. You like to take your time and enjoy giving as well as receiving, but hate bad sex and are right to keep your pride and follow your intuition- you always know when to stick with it and when to give them up as a bad job!
You have the energy of a marathon runner and the enthusiasm of someone set on winning Olympic gold. You are relaxed in bed and know how to make every second count, as you build up to a mind-blowing climax. You put your heart into it, making sure your partner is fulfilled on every level- people feel comfortable with you and frequently let you know. You have a knack for pressing the right buttons and drawing out people’s deepest fantasies, even though you sometimes lack imagination yourself.
Like a good Taurean, with your feet firmly on the ground, you prefer what you can see and touch to what may be in your head. You look down on fantasies as unimportant and secondary to your sexual reality. You may prefer action, but fantasies are not necessarily reserved for those who live in a dream-world, if you ignore this part of yourself, you are ignoring an important part of your Tauerean personality, to the detriment of both you and your partner. Let your
imagination run away with you, you might be surprised where you end up.

This is the most masculine of signs, which fuels its enormous sex drive. Which zodiac sign is the best lover? It might just be this one. Their appetite for intimacy seems insatiable and they need lots of physical touch; no rushing with this sign. To them, good love is like good food—worth taking some time to enjoy. They also have beautiful voices.
To seduce Taurus, give lots of presents and take advantage of their sensuality by always smelling good and having soft skin and a fresh minty mouth.