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Turn Offs in Women in the Swing Lifestyle

I came across a Forum on a Swinger Dating site, and after running through more than 60 responses I figured this would be a good thing to consolidate and share with you!

The question is: What Turn Offs do you find in Women in the Lifestyle?

In most cases, I was unable to determine if it was a man or woman responding to the question, but at least a few were definitely female responses. I’m sure most of this list applies to turn-offs in women AND men, so guys, listen up too!

In the first category, these issues were mentioned often and were repeated by others.

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Bad Attitude

Predominant Turn Offs:
Poor, Pissy or Pretentious attitude, being rude
Poor hygiene, smelly/BO, smelling of smoke
Lying, spreading rumors, speaking poorly/rudely about others
Speaking badly about their own bodies, poor self-image

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A smelly habit

Things on the Secondary list were mentioned at least twice but not as often as the first group.

Secondary Turn Offs:
Clingy, jealousy, Drama Queens
Say they are ready but aren’t, can’t communicate what she wants
Strong perfume, heavy makeup, lipstick
Smelling of alcohol or cigarettes
Poor grooming, unshaved/unruly hair
Teasers, mind games
Lack of subtlety, pushy, rude, arrogance
Attention seekers, need to be center of attention
Being drunk or high

Honorable Mentions: (only mentioned in one response)
Fake nails, wigs/weaves
Jewelry like a Xmas tree
Ugly feet
Perfume and lipstick
“lacking a pulse”/dead fish

Funny that there is nothing in this list that state size, race, color, age, stretch marks, scars or any of the other hangups so many of us have are a turn-off. So perhaps the problem is our own and not that of the general swinger population. If you have low self-esteem, keep it to yourself.

It seems that most of this list is manageable, and are things one can change to make themselves more attractive. Check your attitude at the door, ditch the artificial scent (most prospective play partners would rather smell YOU than your perfume) and put your best foot forward! (of course, we can’t do anything about the feet we were born with. I think the “ugly feet” comment was probably from a foot fetishist!)

If you are new to this lifestyle, maybe this will help you in beginning your exploration.

Perhaps this insight will help you in your quest for marital bliss. Or at least swingers bliss!

Attending The O Zone for the First Time? Some Timely Info!

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Just because a couple attend a swingers club or party does not necessarily label them as swingers, or indeed even interested in a non-monogamous exchange. In fact, many couples don’t swap at all, and only go to these events for their own benefits. That might be to:

  • reconnect with their partner
  • practice flirting
  • dress up in sexy outfits that they can’t wear anywhere else (costumes, lingerie)
  • Socialize with other sexy, like minded people
  • Fuel their own sexual energy
  • Increase confidence
  • See how other open minded married couples are expanding their horizons

 

One couple mentioned they go to The O Zone just so they don’t have to go to public bars or clubs and hang out with drunken young people where they might feel judged.

Communication is key here, not just with your partner but with anyone else who might be interested in you, socially or more. Talk to your partner before arriving and decide just what CAN happen on your first visit, whether that means ‘no touching others’ or ‘flirting is fine’, but clear communication is best.

You may not know what your reaction will be to seeing your partner interacting or flirting with others, so prearrange a signal that only your partner and you know that will let you express concern without alerting others to your issues.

Many couples decide to attend a swing party or club to help re-spark their sex life. It can certainly do this, but without care, it can also damage or end a long term relationship, so take it in baby steps: on your first visit, consider taking the first step only, which might be interacting sexually with your partner only. Watch others, talk about what you see, discuss with your partner the things you would like to try, dance, socialize, ask questions. On your second visit, take the next small step: maybe that’s flirting openly with others. Discuss this with your partner before making contact with others, just to be sure.

Jealousy is common in the swing community, so doing your best to keep that green eyed monster from rearing up goes a long way to protecting your relationship. Your partner should come first and foremost over any other interaction you might be able to engage in. Protect your marriage!

The respect and acceptance level of the guests who attend The O Zone parties makes everyone feel welcome and at ease, and if you have questions or concerns the owners and the Hosts are available to answer them and help you in whatever ways you need.

The club is large enough, with plenty of social areas, seating and a large dance floor so you can find your own perfect niche. Invite another couple to join you for a drink and chat away the evening, or wrap around each other and have a hot make out session. The club is there for you and your desires and only you know what those are. Be honest with yourself and your partner, communicate openly, and see where it might lead you! Good luck and enjoy!

 

Hot Deals on Admission at The O Zone!

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We understand that money is tight these days, and are trying to make the events at The O Zone as accessible as possible, offering discounted admission at regular events for existing couple members arriving before 10pm on both Friday and Saturday nights. For a limited time, our Friday B410 admission is free, but this offer will expire at some point, so take advantage of it while you can!

Have you heard about DP Fridays? In this case, DP = Double Play. While you are at the O Zone on Friday night, pre-pay only $20/couple before you leave, and your admission to return the next evening is covered! Combine that with the B410 FREE admission on Friday night, and you can get in both nights for only $20!! What a deal!

At The O Zone, we cater to open minded and adventurous, committed couples, and we hope that by offering these and other seasonal, themed or event-specific discounts we will see you in The Zone, very soon!