What we wear to a Lifestyle event sets the tone for an evening out when meeting new people. Wearing comfortable street clothes can tell others that you couldn’t be bothered to dress up for the occasion, and that might translate into others thinking you might not be the most dynamic lover. On the other hand, dressing up and paying attention to details can communicate to others that you are an attentive lover with an eye on detail. It’s all in the perception.
Of course, at a house or pool party, the dress code may call for casual clothing, so do consider that. But at classier house, hotel and private parties, and especially at swinger clubs, the “Dress to Impress” credo is important to follow if you want to impress and connect with others.
We found a forum post on swingersboard.com that talks about this, so we thought we’d use it as a basis for this blog post. You can see the whole thread here, but the following excerpts are taken from there, as we thought the poster had some great advice for men! Of course, we added our own input as well to round out the topic.
First, things to avoid when ‘Dressing to Impress’.
- Running shoes. If you wear them to the grocery store, to cut the grass or to walk the dog, it’s not appropriate. We also suggest avoiding flip flops and cheap sandals, as this does not read as ‘sexy’, just ‘comfortable’.
- Ball caps. Even if you wear a hat daily or it’s your favorite team, leave it at home. If you must wear a hat, make it fun and creative, like a fedora. It will cover your bald spot just as well and could be a good conversation starter.
- Especially worn, torn and/or faded denim. Again, if you lounge around your home in them, cut the grass or go camping in them, they are not for the club. The only jeans you should consider – and again, we suggest you just avoid denim altogether as it is not a dressy material – would be designer jeans that fit you properly.
Now, on to the great suggestions:
- Shoes. These are your foundation. They should be comfortable (nothing sexy about a grimacing face on the dance floor), and easy to move in. Leather or suede show class and taste, although many men’s shoe choices are fabric now. Choices could be: dress shoes, or on-trend slip-ons, chukka’s, ankle boots and the like are a start.
- Socks. They need to have been purchased sometime in the last 2 years. Don’t be afraid of colors, and fun patterns that can also be a good conversation starter. Black shoes = black/grey/navy base socks. Brown shoes = brown/tan/earth tone socks.
- Belt. Should RELATE to the shoe color. Leather is best. Wider belts on less dressy pants and even jeans can elevate the look. Bling or a fun buckle can be good, but don’t go overboard with size or flash. Subtle is better. And hey, this could have the ladies looking down at your crotch. That can’t be a bad thing!
- Underwear. Bought in the last year. Don’t be afraid to go with bold colors or prints. Black is a sure bet and looks great on everyone. Try fitted ‘boy shorts’ or boxer briefs with a little elastic in the fabric to keep its shape. These really hug the boys, give support and look great when flaccid or aroused. Boxers may be more comfortable, but not nearly so sexy when disrobing in the playroom. And let’s face it… you love it when she’s wearing something sexy under that dress…. why not have a sexy surprise for her too?
- Pants. Lots of options here, in color, fabric, and cut. Avoid denim as previously stated. Pleated fronts are not flattering and make the wearer balloon out unnaturally in the middle, creating an unflattering profile. Flat front pants are more flattering on more body types. Casual chic dress slacks that aren’t business focused are everywhere these days and look great. Dress flat-front Khaki’s in non-tan colors are popular and look good. A slack with some pattern that is subtle can also be nice. If you’re only going to get one pair, black goes with everything. But colors can be fun too: reds, burgundy, greens, dark brown, etc.
- Shirts. Way more options here. Dress To Impress usually implies a shirt with a collar, so avoid T-shirts. Think non-button-down collared dress shirts (the kind without buttons on the collar), which can be suit dressy, or casual without a tie. Our original poster suggests avoiding Polo shirts, even though they are collared, as they belong on the golf course. But, if the choice is between a T and a Polo, then go with the collar. Another suggestion is a black stretch T, which means ‘fitted’, under an open, button-down knit. This adds a nice layered effect and can hide a few extra pounds. Consider wearing something that has a slight texture to it. The ladies may be drawn to touch it, and who doesn’t like a little contact
- Jacket. Weather will dictate this. Try a nice, unstructured blazer. The fit is key, guys. Don’t go a size larger, as this just reads as ‘dumpy’.
- Accessorize. Have a nice watch? Wear it, it speaks volumes. Most people use their phones as their timepiece, but in a busy club many people won’t have theirs on hand, so this could be a good ice breaker. “Excuse me, do you have the time?”
- Finishing Touches. (directly from the original post, cuz hey! We agree wholeheartedly!) “Your feet are self-pedicured. Your fingernails are clean, clipped close, and looking good. You are always shower fresh and not heavily fragranced. And your oral hygiene (that means floss and tongue scraper) is impeccable.”
A man who dresses sharply and takes pride in his appearance translates to ‘this is a man who cares about his partner and will pay attention to detail in his lovemaking too.’ We assure you, the ladies will take notice!