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Holiday Gift Ideas for the Swinger in Your Life

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Looking for Fun and Sexy Gift ideas for the swinger in your life? Here are a few ideas to get you started!

  • Pineapple anything: decor (pillows, wall decor, garden flag) – bonus points if it can be displayed upside down
  • Sexy attire: For her: lingerie, anything gauzy or see-thru, sexy costume, fishnet, sexy panties.
    For him: sexy underwear, dressy shirt – especially one that is textured (ladies are very tactile, this may instigate more contact), a sexy watch (great conversation starter)
  • Massage oil: there’s never enough oil for a sexy massage, so don’t run out!
  • Massage blanket: something you can use every time the oil comes out, because like silicone lubricant, it will stain fabric
  • Tickets to Valentines in Niagara – they fit in a stocking nicely and gives you 6 weeks to plan and invite all your friends
  • Beach towel: especially with a pineapple or something sexy on it, for all those hot tub parties you’ll be going to
  • Travel mug/glass: great to take to events or house parties, you’ll never forget which glass is yours. One with a lid keeps it clean and creates fewer spills
  • Fancy face mask. Swingers love Masquerade parties, and it’s great to have a unique mask that no one else will be wearing.
  • Tickets to The O Zone’s Midnight Masquerade NYE Gala – they will pair nicely with the mask!
  • Sex Toys: Many swingers travel to house or hotel parties, swing clubs, and conventions and take their toys with them. Why not? No one will judge!
  • Sex Toy Bag: Perhaps you have outgrown your Travel Toy Bag – a new, bigger bag may be in order!
  • An extension cord to add to the toy bag if any of your toys require electricity – alternately: a wireless charging device for rechargeable toys
  • Lubricants and condoms: Most parties and clubs supply basic lube and condoms, but if you prefer a specific brand, why not gift them? Then you’re ready to roll to your next Swinger destination! Note: Silicone lube is great, but ruins linens: don’t use silicone lube in a hotel room, at a club or someone else’s home – they will thank you!
  • Bling for her: nipple pasties, shiny jewelry, waist chain, etc. It’ll get her noticed at the next event!
  • Spa gift certificate: she’ll love being pampered and will feel special and extra pretty after the visit. It might be good to combine with tickets to an event, like Valentines’ in Niagara!
  • Dance lessons: something you can do together that will get you both on the dance floor at the club. That kind of confidence is super sexy and will gain you many admirers!
  • Attend a sex workshop at your local sex shop and surprise her with what you’ve learned. Or go as a couple, depending on the topic.
  • Waterproof blanket – great for squirters or those who enjoy extra slippery play with lube/oil
  • Sexy, boudoir photoshoot – you can give them as a gift all at the same time, or disperse them one or two at a time, and have several as a backup for birthday, anniversary, Christmas and Valentines, as well as other ‘just because’ times.
  • Hire someone to come in and cook a romantic meal for the two of you, have a candlelit dinner together

There are so many sexy, naughty, personal gifts you can give that Special Someone in your life. Use your imagination, consider what that person would most appreciate and go from there. Good luck finding just the right gift!

Leo Horoscope

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LEO WOMEN: Sleek, lascivious, enticing and lazy! Whatever Leo wants, Leo gets! Intensely responsive and there are bed partners who have scars to prove it. Your need to show off leads you to prefer the top where he can look up and admire the beauty of your body.

Best sex mates: Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Aries. Your sexual wardrobe: full of wispy cut-out bras and panties!

LEO MEN: Simply brushes aside rules and conventions. One important rule to remember about him: NEVER tease. His endurance is remarkable and he has a great appetite for making love. He likes women in the submissive position and oral sex is okay when he is on the receiving end. He likes a woman to show how much she is enjoying it. His erogenous zone: his back is particularly vulnerable.

Your devilish skill means that your substantial sexual appetite is normally sated. Your sexual reputation will always precede you (even when you try to explain it away with physiological waffle), you think sexual pleasure is the only way to a real understanding of human nature and you are on a constant quest to find yourself. Dirty work, but someone’s got to do it!

Your energy comes from your ego and thanks to your narcissism, you love to see your desire reflected in another. At the bottom of it all is the simple fact that you love to be sexy and desired – with no audience to admire and appreciate you, sex would completely lose its meaning.

Like a good Leo, you are proud of your body and your charms, preferring to be the object of Others’ fantasies than to fantasize yourself. In exchange, your partners need to match your energy and appreciate your efforts. You are not good at inventing complex scenarios, even though you like to pick unusual places and times to have sex.

For most people, this is the zodiac sign that is the best lover. They constantly burn with a fiery passion and are sexually confident and powerful. They take charge in bed and explore sexual pleasures with dramatic, large-scale flair.

They constantly shower their lovers with gifts and attention. Seducing a Leo is fairly simple; they need continuous personal attention. To get on their soft side, try playing with their luxurious hair.

Turn Offs in Women in the Swing Lifestyle

I came across a Forum on a Swinger Dating site, and after running through more than 60 responses I figured this would be a good thing to consolidate and share with you!

The question is: What Turn Offs do you find in Women in the Lifestyle?

In most cases, I was unable to determine if it was a man or woman responding to the question, but at least a few were definitely female responses. I’m sure most of this list applies to turn-offs in women AND men, so guys, listen up too!

In the first category, these issues were mentioned often and were repeated by others.

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Bad Attitude

Predominant Turn Offs:
Poor, Pissy or Pretentious attitude, being rude
Poor hygiene, smelly/BO, smelling of smoke
Lying, spreading rumors, speaking poorly/rudely about others
Speaking badly about their own bodies, poor self-image

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A smelly habit

Things on the Secondary list were mentioned at least twice but not as often as the first group.

Secondary Turn Offs:
Clingy, jealousy, Drama Queens
Say they are ready but aren’t, can’t communicate what she wants
Strong perfume, heavy makeup, lipstick
Smelling of alcohol or cigarettes
Poor grooming, unshaved/unruly hair
Teasers, mind games
Lack of subtlety, pushy, rude, arrogance
Attention seekers, need to be center of attention
Being drunk or high

Honorable Mentions: (only mentioned in one response)
Fake nails, wigs/weaves
Jewelry like a Xmas tree
Ugly feet
Perfume and lipstick
“lacking a pulse”/dead fish

Funny that there is nothing in this list that state size, race, color, age, stretch marks, scars or any of the other hangups so many of us have are a turn-off. So perhaps the problem is our own and not that of the general swinger population. If you have low self-esteem, keep it to yourself.

It seems that most of this list is manageable, and are things one can change to make themselves more attractive. Check your attitude at the door, ditch the artificial scent (most prospective play partners would rather smell YOU than your perfume) and put your best foot forward! (of course, we can’t do anything about the feet we were born with. I think the “ugly feet” comment was probably from a foot fetishist!)

If you are new to this lifestyle, maybe this will help you in beginning your exploration.

Perhaps this insight will help you in your quest for marital bliss. Or at least swingers bliss!