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Valentine’s in Niagara Hotel Staff Are The Best!

Decorations at Valentine's In Niagara

It’s Sunday morning, check-out day after Valentine’s in Niagara, and I’m heading to my car with an armload of feather boas. As I pass by a cleaning closet, an elder cleaning lady looks up and smiles pleasantly, not even registering the armload of feathers I have. “Don’t mind me, just taking my pet chicken to the car”, I joke with her. She just smiles more and goes back to her work.

I guess I can’t expect more of a reaction. This is the same cleaning lady I saw the day before that caused me to back up and look again. I had passed the open door of a guest’s room where she was tidying and making the bed on Saturday morning. Nothing new there. But what made me do the double-take was one of the beds was covered, and I mean *covered*, from the headboard to the foot, and fully side to side, with sex toys: dildo’s, strapons, vibrators, cock rings, bottles of lube and other sexy stuff, all laid out as if on display and ready to use. I suppose this could have been their ‘window decorations’ for the decorating contest.

But a display of sex toys is not what made me double-take. This lovely and professional housekeeping staff was delicately pulling the covers tight and tucking them in without touching or disturbing the toys displayed. And she was doing it without so much as a grimace or outward facial expression! Cudo’s!!

When I shared this story with another couple who saw me look twice, they told me a housekeeping story of their own!

When they left their room that morning, they had gathered any wayward toys and tucked them away before going to breakfast. When they had returned, they saw that the maid had come in to tidy and make their bed. Apparently they missed one of their toys, a dildo with a wide base, in the bedsheets. The maid had removed it, made the bed, then stood the toy straight up in the middle of the bed. There was no mistaking the fact that she had removed it then left it easily found upon their return.

We have been at this same hotel for many years now, and the staff loves our group! If you ask any of them, they’ll tell you how much they love our group and have no problems with the event we host.

So if you thought you’d be too embarrassed or uncomfortable with hotel staff around, we can assure you, it’s not a problem!!

Valentine’s in Niagara Q&A

Poster for Valentines In Niagara, Feb 7-9, 2020

We understand you may have some questions about Valentine’s in Niagara, as so many couples do. Don’t worry, you are not alone! We’ll try to answer some of those questions here and alleviate your stress.

Q: What hotel is VIN hosted in?
A: We don’t disclose this information publicly, for the comfort and safety of our guests. This should help keep unregistered guests from just showing up to have a look. Please do not disclose the location to anyone.

Q: When will we find out then?
A: The week before the event we will send out an email with all the pertinent information you’ll need to find us and get settled in.

Q: We see that the hotel is sold out. What can we do if we still want to attend?
A: We do sell a limited number of Couples Passes. You are welcome to stay elsewhere and attend the events each day. Please drink responsibly if you need to leave at the end of the evening.

Q: We can’t attend the entire event. Can we just come for Saturday nights entertainment and dance?
A: No, we want to keep this as a vacation feel where all attendees are there for the entire weekend. Selling passes to just some of the events will surely change the feel of the event.

Q: We are new to the Lifestyle and aren’t ready to swap yet. Will we be outsiders?
A: Nope! There are plenty of couples who attend VIN who are there for the sexy atmosphere and to reconnect with their partner while making friends and enjoying the rest of what VIN Has to offer: entertainment, sexual education, and a fun, flirty atmosphere. There are hundreds of couples at VIN, and each are individual with their own goals and interests for the weekend.

Q: What food options are there at VIN?
A: You can BYOFood and eat in your room. There is a mini-fridge in every room. There is a grocery store very near the hotel, as well as several fast food options nearby: McDonald’s, Tim Horton’s, Pizza and several others within a block or two of the hotel.
The hotel has a restaurant on-site, which is open to the public so if you do go there, please dress and act appropriately.
Lastly, the hotel offers a buffet, served in the Courtyard. Just $134/pp (til Jan 30, $144 after) and includes weekend parking, 2 dinners, 2 breakfasts, 1 lunch, 5 drinks per day, and late-night snacks. Call the hotel directly to book, or do so when checking in on Friday of VIN. (info for this will be in your email)

Q: What should we wear?
A: The pool and hot tubs are clothing optional. If you are naked, please sit on a towel.
We cover all exterior windows on the main floor (including the lobby) so our guests can dress in whatever way they wish. Most dress provocatively throughout the weekend, in sexy attire, costumes and various stages of undress. Daytime is more casual and we see everything from comfortable street clothes like cutoff jean shorts and short skirts to panties and nothing else. A lot of the ladies go topless or wear pasties, jewelry, etc. In the evening, most people dress in theme for the dance parties (Fri = Red & Glitz. Sat = Mardi Gras – Green, Gold, and Purple)…short skirts and plunging necklines, lingerie, bra/panties, and less. Remember, at Saturday nights Mardi Gras party we hand out hundreds of strands of beads to the guys, so when the ladies flash them, they receive beads, so wear something that’s easy to flash your tits if that’s your thing.

Q: Do we need to sign up for the seminars and workshops?
A: Not for any of the FREE ones! Just arrive at the designated start time and location, take a seat and join in! Some request being on time… please don’t arrive late for these.
We also have several PAID workshops and those you will need to pre-register/pay for as they have very limited space. These will be listed in the email you will get the week before the event with contact info, so feel free to reach out to the presenters ahead of time, either with questions or to register. The presenters will have an info table set up at VIN on Friday afternoon, so feel free to visit and chat with them there as well.

Q: As newbies, we don’t know what to expect. Will we see orgies and sex everywhere?
A: The hotel prefers that we play in the rooms or the playrooms, for hygienic reasons. We agree with this as we understand that this might make some of our VIN attendees uncomfortable (new or old). We love sexy talk and flirty fun in the public areas, but when it’s time to get busy, please find a room to play in and leave the public areas. If you WANT to see or be part of an orgy or group play, the playroom on the 4th floor has plenty of beds in one room, open 9pm – 4am.

Q: Feels weird to be at an LS hotel takeover with the staff wandering around. What’s that like?
A: I asked one of the staff a couple of years ago how the staff feel about this event. They all really love our group. She said they draw straws to see who GETS to work the weekend.  Part of why they like us so much is the respect we have for their space and staff.

We hope that by answering these questions, you’ll feel more comfortable attending VIN and see that you’ll fit right in, no matter where you are on your hedonistic journey!

Code Words in the LS to Keep You Safe

Safewords are more prevalent in the BDSM lifestyle, but what about for swingers? Surely there is a time when you want to indicate to your partner that you’re a NO for what’s being offered without offending the person or couple who are offering. Maybe it’s dancing and flirting with a couple on the dance floor, and your partner is like ‘Yes? You’re interested in this person to play with tonight?” You may not want to say out loud, “No, I’m not interested” in front of them and ruin the mood or offend them. So what can you do?

Some couples have code words worked out for just such a scenario. One couple I spoke to said they use fruits as an indicator. She doesn’t like lime, so might say something like ‘I taste lime in this drink’, or ‘with a lime twist’, to indicate she’s just not feeling it with this person. With a quick comment (or even a quick whispered word “Lime” in his ear) they have communicated clearly and without offending the other couple.

Likewise, when she is interested and would like to take it further, she uses ‘strawberry’ as their positive identifier. “Boy, it would be great to have some strawberries right now!” or “I smell strawberries!” and he knows he can help move the action from the dance floor to the playroom.

Using code words between you and your partner could help take some of the awkwardness out of communicating in front of others. It’s hard to say “Honey, while these people seem perfectly nice, I’m just not interested in them.” but dropping a code word that no one but your partner knows and understand is harmless and won’t hurt anyone’s feelings.

In the kink community, they use stoplight colors to indicate a willingness to participate. Green means GO, obviously. One could use this too while at a swing club “Oh look at that couple over there. I’m GREEN with envy over her shoes!”

Yellow usually indicates something is just not quite right and is often used as an indicator that play needs to slow down. Again, in swinging this could be good to extract yourselves from play that may have already started but you no longer are feeling it, and want to stop or take a break.

And Red is an All Stop safeword. In BDSM it is expected that if one says Red as a safeword, all play halts. Both or all participants can use a safeword, not just the bottom or sub. Likewise, in the swinging lifestyle, Red can be used to indicate to your partner that ‘you gotta get me out of here now!’ or ‘I am NOT into this and I am done.’

Of course, you and your partner should have this all worked out before you arrive at a club or party, so you are on the same page and you’re not throwing out code words that they aren’t picking up on it. Use words that aren’t likely to be used at a party or event, but aren’t so out of the blue (like saying ‘Broccoli’) that the other person or couple are left scratching their heads. Also, avoid using ‘boner killer’ words or phrases, like ‘your mother called today’, or it could kill the mood entirely.

This trick isn’t for everyone obviously. But if you think it might work for you, talk to your partner about it and come up with some safe or code words that just the two of you use. If nothing else, it’ll bring you closer together as honest and open communication skills are a cornerstone for the swinging lifestyle.

Good luck and have fun!