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Swinger Dictionary

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There are a lot of words used in the swinging Lifestyle that you may be unfamiliar with. Here are some of those, and an explanation.

Swingers – Non-monogamous people looking for sexual interaction, at least on some level, with others that are not their spouse. Swingers are most commonly committed or married couples, but singles can also partake in the swinging lifestyle.

Soft Swap – Meaning no penetrative sex, but most other sexual acts are open for negotiation, such as flirting, kissing, oral or mutual masturbation.

Full Swap – Interested in any or all sexual acts, including penetration.

Same Room – Couples who are interested in playing with others but in the same room where they can make eye contact with their partner.

Compersion – The opposite of jealousy. The feeling of excitement and fulfillment for your partner while they play with others.

Ellis (LS) – A universal way of asking another if they are swingers. “Do you know Ellis?” Some also use “Alice”, both sound like “LS”. LS = Lifestyle

Unicorn – A single, bisexual woman interested in playing with and having sex with couples.

Bull – A single man, usually well hung, who is interested in penetrative sex with women, often while the husband watches.

Cuckold – A married man who watches nearby as his wife has sex with another man, but usually does not become involved.

Hotwife – A wife who will have sex with other men, often while her husband is nearby. A hotwife is often insatiable, wanting and needing more sex than her partner.

Monogamish – A couple who attend events to flirt and meet others but rarely play might consider themselves ‘monogamish’, meaning mostly monogamous.

Swingle – A single that wishes to attend a couples event will invite a single of the opposite sex to attend with them, and they become ‘swingles’, even though they attend the event together.

Negotiation – Speaking clearly and plainly about what it is you are looking for, listening to what they want, and agreeing to a plan everyone likes.

Comet – A person that passes through your life quickly and is gone. Comets are popular on vacation, where you may not ever see them again.

Swinger Soup – A pool or hot tub that is full to capacity with swingers socializing, flirting and playing.

We hope this list helps you to understand some of the lingo used by swingers today, and that some potentially resonate with you!

27 Reasons to Explore a Consensual, Non-Monogamous Relationship

A sexy couple about to play together

Sexy Couple about to play together

A relationship between 2 adults is most often monogamous in North America, but why does it have to be so? It is up to the couple to decide if swinging or swapping is for them, or even if they wish to attend a Couples club. Good, clear communication is a great way to start on this road to discovery and taking baby steps along the way.

Here are some reasons why couples might explore a non-monogamous relationship.

  • New Relationship Energy (NRE) – that excitement we feel when we meet someone new
  • Compersion – the positive feelings one gets from seeing their partner enjoy sex or a relationship with another
  • Seeing partner happy/excited – many ‘service oriented’ people out there
  • Encourages fitness – we always want to look our best when dating new people
  • A place to dress up or down – dress in whatever way makes you feel sexy
  • Make friends with like-minded people
  • Practice flirting – with your partner or with others
  • Play with others without lying or cheating on your spouse
  • Improve your sexual techniques – practice makes perfect
  • Learn new techniques from others – whether by doing or by watching
  • Express your desires and fantasies without fear of judgment
  • Amplify the commitment in your primary relationship
  • Open conversations with your partner
  • Watch your inhibitions fly out the window
  • Dirty dance with your partner or others
  • Openly discuss your fantasies and desires
  • Explore your bi side while having your partner nearby
  • Encourage your partner to explore their bi side
  • Enjoy extended foreplay
  • Learn to take your time and appreciate sexual arousal and pleasure
  • Explore your exhibitionistic or voyeuristic side
  • Opens a line of communication with your partner
  • Learn to give and receive pleasure on a whole different level
  • Enjoy foreplay without rushing to the finish line
  • Act out lifelong fantasies
  • Learn to trust your partner, deepening your bond
  • Fills the Spank Bank, sparks sexy conversation with your partner

So, there are just a few reasons to explore this Lifestyle. Have a conversation with your partner, then visit The O Zone, Where the party is at!

Poster for New Years Eve at The O Zone

New Years Eve at The O Zone!

The end of 2018 is fast approaching! What happened to summer? And fall for that matter? And with all the excitement of the holiday season, have you decided what you’ll be doing for New Years eve yet?

Christmas is for family, no doubt. But New Years Eve is traditionally a time to spend with your loved one, celebrating the coming of a new year with all it’s possibilities. A time to reflect on the past year and checking off the things you managed to do, and moving the untouched To Do list to the new year. I’m not talking about fixing the roof or shopping for that next big ticket item. I’m talking about reconnecting with your sweetheart, rekindling that sexy vibe you used to enjoy, and trying new, sexy, exciting things!

If nothing else, you should reward yourselves for getting thru yet another Christmas with the in-laws, shopping, baking, gift returns and holiday meals made to feed the entire, extended family. It’s time to let loose a little, put on your sexiest little black (or red or gold or…) dress, step onto the dance floor and let your inhibitions slide away for an evening.

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Celebrate New Years with champagne on us!

New Years Eve at The O Zone is designed to celebrate the biggest night of the year, and you don’t have to do a thing except join in the fun! Delicious appetizers and food served all night, 3 bars to quench your thirst, and a dance floor with sound and lights to get you up and movin’ your groove. Expect streamers and a huge balloon drop on the dance floor at midnight as well as champagne for all attendees, and we even have beautiful La Senza masks for the first 100 ladies thru the door. And did I mention, TWO professional body painters?! Wow!! 

And when the frenzy of dance, movement and flirting get the best of you, there are 2 large playrooms with plenty of play space and many beds awaiting you. Be a voyeur and watch others while you play (no standing around the playrooms to just watch… that’s just creepy!) or show off your best moves where others can see. And when it’s all done at 4 am…. Breakfast in Bed for 400 people!!!

So, I ask again…. what are YOU doing for New Years Eve??