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How to “Dress To Impress” for Men

Man adjusting his collar of a suit jacket

What we wear to a Lifestyle event sets the tone for an evening out when meeting new people. Wearing comfortable street clothes can tell others that you couldn’t be bothered to dress up for the occasion, and that might translate into others thinking you might not be the most dynamic lover. On the other hand, dressing up and paying attention to details can communicate to others that you are an attentive lover with an eye on detail. It’s all in the perception.

Of course, at a house or pool party, the dress code may call for casual clothing, so do consider that. But at classier house, hotel and private parties, and especially at swinger clubs, the “Dress to Impress” credo is important to follow if you want to impress and connect with others.

We found a forum post on swingersboard.com that talks about this, so we thought we’d use it as a basis for this blog post. You can see the whole thread here, but the following excerpts are taken from there, as we thought the poster had some great advice for men! Of course, we added our own input as well to round out the topic.

First, things to avoid when ‘Dressing to Impress’.

  • Running shoes. If you wear them to the grocery store, to cut the grass or to walk the dog, it’s not appropriate. We also suggest avoiding flip flops and cheap sandals, as this does not read as ‘sexy’, just ‘comfortable’.
  • Ball caps. Even if you wear a hat daily or it’s your favorite team, leave it at home. If you must wear a hat, make it fun and creative, like a fedora. It will cover your bald spot just as well and could be a good conversation starter.
  • Especially worn, torn and/or faded denim. Again, if you lounge around your home in them, cut the grass or go camping in them, they are not for the club. The only jeans you should consider – and again, we suggest you just avoid denim altogether as it is not a dressy material – would be designer jeans that fit you properly.

Now, on to the great suggestions:

  • Shoes. These are your foundation. They should be comfortable (nothing sexy about a grimacing face on the dance floor), and easy to move in. Leather or suede show class and taste, although many men’s shoe choices are fabric now. Choices could be: dress shoes, or on-trend slip-ons, chukka’s, ankle boots and the like are a start.
  • Socks. They need to have been purchased sometime in the last 2 years. Don’t be afraid of colors, and fun patterns that can also be a good conversation starter. Black shoes = black/grey/navy base socks. Brown shoes = brown/tan/earth tone socks.

Brown leather mens shoes and a matching belt

  • Belt. Should RELATE to the shoe color. Leather is best. Wider belts on less dressy pants and even jeans can elevate the look. Bling or a fun buckle can be good, but don’t go overboard with size or flash. Subtle is better. And hey, this could have the ladies looking down at your crotch. That can’t be a bad thing!
  • Underwear. Bought in the last year. Don’t be afraid to go with bold colors or prints. Black is a sure bet and looks great on everyone. Try fitted ‘boy shorts’ or boxer briefs with a little elastic in the fabric to keep its shape. These really hug the boys, give support and look great when flaccid or aroused. Boxers may be more comfortable, but not nearly so sexy when disrobing in the playroom. And let’s face it… you love it when she’s wearing something sexy under that dress…. why not have a sexy surprise for her too?
  • Pants. Lots of options here, in color, fabric, and cut. Avoid denim as previously stated. Pleated fronts are not flattering and make the wearer balloon out unnaturally in the middle, creating an unflattering profile. Flat front pants are more flattering on more body types. Casual chic dress slacks that aren’t business focused are everywhere these days and look great. Dress flat-front Khaki’s in non-tan colors are popular and look good. A slack with some pattern that is subtle can also be nice. If you’re only going to get one pair, black goes with everything. But colors can be fun too: reds, burgundy, greens, dark brown, etc.
  • Shirts. Way more options here. Dress To Impress usually implies a shirt with a collar, so avoid T-shirts. Think non-button-down collared dress shirts (the kind without buttons on the collar), which can be suit dressy, or casual without a tie. Our original poster suggests avoiding Polo shirts, even though they are collared, as they belong on the golf course. But, if the choice is between a T and a Polo, then go with the collar. Another suggestion is a black stretch T, which means ‘fitted’, under an open, button-down knit. This adds a nice layered effect and can hide a few extra pounds. Consider wearing something that has a slight texture to it. The ladies may be drawn to touch it, and who doesn’t like a little contact
  • Jacket. Weather will dictate this. Try a nice, unstructured blazer. The fit is key, guys. Don’t go a size larger, as this just reads as ‘dumpy’.
  • Accessorize. Have a nice watch? Wear it, it speaks volumes. Most people use their phones as their timepiece, but in a busy club many people won’t have theirs on hand, so this could be a good ice breaker. “Excuse me, do you have the time?”
  • Finishing Touches. (directly from the original post, cuz hey! We agree wholeheartedly!) “Your feet are self-pedicured. Your fingernails are clean, clipped close, and looking good. You are always shower fresh and not heavily fragranced. And your oral hygiene (that means floss and tongue scraper) is impeccable.”

A man who dresses sharply and takes pride in his appearance translates to ‘this is a man who cares about his partner and will pay attention to detail in his lovemaking too.’ We assure you, the ladies will take notice!

A Hotel Takeover that celebrates sexuality and Freedom of Expression

Poster with pink lips holding a candy heart that says Valentines in Niagara and booking details

Valentine’s in Niagara Feb 1 – 3, 2019

 

It’s nearly time for Valentine’s In Niagara again! Feb 1-3, 2019! For 12 years, TABOTA has been hosting this complete hotel takeover in beautiful and romantic Niagara Falls, ON and this year is no different! The exact location is not disclosed publicly for security reasons but is given to registered attendees of the event only.

Last year was completely sold out, and hundreds of sexually open-minded couples converged from all over North America for this epic weekend to celebrate their sexual diversity.

The hotel boasts a tropical paradise with indoor pool and hot tub area (both clothing optional), courtyard with plenty of seating, and a restaurant on premise for a quick, delicious meal to keep attendees fueled for the fun night ahead. Feel free to bring along whatever food you might like to consume in your room over the weekend otherwise, as there is a fridge in every room. A cash bar is conveniently located in the courtyard as well, or bring your own alcohol and pour from your room. Don’t forget a plastic, To Go cup to carry your beverage with you while you hang out with other guests or attend one of the many scheduled events happening over the weekend.

They offer several room types, including rooms that open directly into the courtyard where all the action happens. There is a Room Door decorating contest and this really helps set the mood for the entire weekend right from the moment attendees arrive, seeing these decorations as they make their way to their own room. TABOTA itself does a fair amount of decorating as well, making the location their own with splashes of red hearts everywhere, reflecting Valentine’s theme.

Themed dance parties each night, contests and mixers are highlights of the weekend, which are rounded out with live entertainment on Saturday evening, and workshops, demos, and seminars on sexy topics throughout the day. In the evenings, there are 2 playrooms available for group activities, including one kinky playroom ready for whatever shade of gray you’re into.

Many attendees are swingers or open to non-monogamous play, but this event is attended by many open-minded, monogamous couples looking for something just a little more than what they share now. VIN, just like The O Zone, is attracting those committed couples who are looking for ways to spice up their sex life in non-conventional ways, and Valentine’s in Niagara gives them the anonymity to explore with little chance of meeting someone they know.

If this is you, don’t worry, we understand your trepidation. But please know, it’s not likely how you envision it. While there is plenty of flirting and sexiness happening, there is no expectation that you do anything you aren’t up for. Sit in the hot tub and watch others flirt and kiss, listen to the erotic and frank conversations around you and dance the night away next to other sexy couples there for exactly the same reason: to feel sexy and have fun with their partner!

If you and your partner wish to explore further, that’s between the two of you. Have a frank and honest conversation, set some limits that keep you both comfortable, then get out there and explore! Have more questions about VIN? Check out the FAQ page for answers.

We’ll see you at Valentines in Niagara!!

www.valentinesinniagara.com

Your Help Desperately Needed! Fundraiser!

A message from the Owners at The O Zone

TO ALL CLUB MEMBERS – We are asking for your support and donations!! From now, Feb 17 until April 2.

My best and long-time friend’s son Nathan, was diagnosed with a deadly form of cancer.

Nathan needs a second chance at life and Matt & Amanda from The O Zone are calling on all club members to open your hearts and help out.

We will be collecting donations at reception at The O Zone from now until Saturday March 25th, when we will be hosting a special charity event to raise funds.

It will be a FREE Night and are asking for donations at the door. We will be doing an auction at the event. As well, we are offering 2 month membership with a minimum donation ($100 plus fees).

The link to acquire your 2 Month Membership and donate is – https://www.picatic.com/event14872691492315

If you can contribute in anyway… add to the event…donate to the auction or have any advice please contact us.

Nathan was diagnosed in 2014 with an aggressive form of Hodgkin Lymphoma Cancer after he noticed lumps on his neck. He was treated with chemotherapy and was in remission in 2 years. However, the cancer has recently come back… this time with a low chance of survival. He has been treated with chemotherapy and a stem cell transplant but has NOT gone into remission. He has residual cancer in the area between the lungs.

There is however a drug treatment using BRENTUXIMAB combined with BENDAMUSTINE which offers hope. The combined treatment has seen 80% response rates in clinical trials and will give him his best chance at life.

This combination of treatment is not publicly funded, it costs about $30,000 per treatment. Nathan, who does not have private insurance coverage, will need about eight treatments.

Nathan lives with his wife and 3 year old daughter, east of Toronto on the family farm. Fundraising efforts are being organized to prevent the family from having to sell the farm to provide treatments.

We are offering a 2 month Platinum Couples Memberships to The O Zone, for all couples making a minimum $100 donation. We are asking that you open your hearts and if possible, make a larger donation of $200… $300 or if possible, even $500 would be greatly appreciated.(plus service fee)

If you currently have a Platinum Membership, we will add the additional 2 months to your already existing membership.
We will also be hosting a special “FUCK Cancer” event at the club on Saturday March 25th. This will be a FREE Couples Event to further raise funds for Nathan. The Event will also include the commencement of our auction.

If you would like to participate in the March 25th event or donate anything…. Goods or Services to the auction, please contact us. Info@xhotfun.com or call 416-246-9663

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