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O Zone Amenities – What’s Included in Admission

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Membership is a requirement by law in Ontario for a club such as The O Zone, with ‘on-premise’ playrooms. Many clubs require than a membership fee be paid annually, but not at The O Zone. Membership is included in the first visit and never expires. But what do you get for your membership? There’s quite a bit you wouldn’t expect.

We supply condoms and water-based lube. Condoms are usually found in a dish on the back bar by the entrance to the back areas. If you have a favorite kind of condom, prefer non-latex or condoms of a certain size, you are encouraged to bring your own. A large bottle of lubricant can be found in each of the two playrooms, and small cups nearby that you can squirt some into, rather than taking the entire bottle to your play area, leaving it for others as well. If you bring your own lube, please leave the silicone or hybrid lube at home, as it stains our linens, raising operating costs. There is hand sanitizer in the playrooms and the washrooms, for your convenience.

In the back washrooms, you’ll find mouthwash and cups so you’ll always have fresh breath for your next encounter. There is a large, communal shower with several showerheads situated centrally between the two playrooms, with towels available free of charge. We ask that you take only what you need, and place soiled towels in the laundry baskets provided. You’ll find towels stacked neatly in both playrooms, in the locker room and by the shower, as well as in the hall by the washrooms.

There is a generous bank of lockers in each of the playrooms, as well as the locker room by the shower. Locks are located on the back bar by the condom bowl. Each lock is numbered and comes with a key with a coordinating number. A lock can go on ANY locker, not just the number written on the lock. (these numbers are for our staff, so we can marry the correct key to its corresponding lock after the party is over). We ask that when you are finished with it, lock the key into the lock and place it on the back bar for our staff to tidy later.

Every Friday and Saturday party has a theme, and the club is often decorated in theme. Think of all the time and money spent decorating for many of these events. Halloween is one of the biggest decorating endeavors and lasts the entire month. Other themes include Valentine’s, New Year’s Eve, Mardi Pardi, toga, Stoplight party, and the list goes on. Many of the clubs don’t decorate, or very minimally. At The O Zone, we want to create a full experience, and the decor goes a long way to provide that.

The O Zone also serves a light snack buffet every evening that includes chips and snacks, chicken fingers and fries, and a host of other delectable snacks to keep your energy up. On busy nights, the buffet is constantly refreshed so no matter when you need it, there’s a little something to keep you going.

There are often prizes and giveaways as well. Sometimes prizes for best costumes or sexiest outfit. Sometimes the first to arrive get an incentive gift, like masks for New Year’s Eve or pasties and naughty surprises on other nights. We give out hundreds and hundreds of strands of beads at Mardi Pardi to help instigate the flashing of tantalizing flesh.

So you see, your membership and price of admission covers a lot of extras that aren’t included at other clubs. We want it to be as inclusive as possible, so our guests can concentrate on the task at hand: enjoying a hedonistic night out!

 

 

Swinger Dictionary

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There are a lot of words used in the swinging Lifestyle that you may be unfamiliar with. Here are some of those, and an explanation.

Swingers – Non-monogamous people looking for sexual interaction, at least on some level, with others that are not their spouse. Swingers are most commonly committed or married couples, but singles can also partake in the swinging lifestyle.

Soft Swap – Meaning no penetrative sex, but most other sexual acts are open for negotiation, such as flirting, kissing, oral or mutual masturbation.

Full Swap – Interested in any or all sexual acts, including penetration.

Same Room – Couples who are interested in playing with others but in the same room where they can make eye contact with their partner.

Compersion – The opposite of jealousy. The feeling of excitement and fulfillment for your partner while they play with others.

Ellis (LS) – A universal way of asking another if they are swingers. “Do you know Ellis?” Some also use “Alice”, both sound like “LS”. LS = Lifestyle

Unicorn – A single, bisexual woman interested in playing with and having sex with couples.

Bull – A single man, usually well hung, who is interested in penetrative sex with women, often while the husband watches.

Cuckold – A married man who watches nearby as his wife has sex with another man, but usually does not become involved.

Hotwife – A wife who will have sex with other men, often while her husband is nearby. A hotwife is often insatiable, wanting and needing more sex than her partner.

Monogamish – A couple who attend events to flirt and meet others but rarely play might consider themselves ‘monogamish’, meaning mostly monogamous.

Swingle – A single that wishes to attend a couples event will invite a single of the opposite sex to attend with them, and they become ‘swingles’, even though they attend the event together.

Negotiation – Speaking clearly and plainly about what it is you are looking for, listening to what they want, and agreeing to a plan everyone likes.

Comet – A person that passes through your life quickly and is gone. Comets are popular on vacation, where you may not ever see them again.

Swinger Soup – A pool or hot tub that is full to capacity with swingers socializing, flirting and playing.

We hope this list helps you to understand some of the lingo used by swingers today, and that some potentially resonate with you!

Turn Offs in Women in the Swing Lifestyle

I came across a Forum on a Swinger Dating site, and after running through more than 60 responses I figured this would be a good thing to consolidate and share with you!

The question is: What Turn Offs do you find in Women in the Lifestyle?

In most cases, I was unable to determine if it was a man or woman responding to the question, but at least a few were definitely female responses. I’m sure most of this list applies to turn-offs in women AND men, so guys, listen up too!

In the first category, these issues were mentioned often and were repeated by others.

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Bad Attitude

Predominant Turn Offs:
Poor, Pissy or Pretentious attitude, being rude
Poor hygiene, smelly/BO, smelling of smoke
Lying, spreading rumors, speaking poorly/rudely about others
Speaking badly about their own bodies, poor self-image

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A smelly habit

Things on the Secondary list were mentioned at least twice but not as often as the first group.

Secondary Turn Offs:
Clingy, jealousy, Drama Queens
Say they are ready but aren’t, can’t communicate what she wants
Strong perfume, heavy makeup, lipstick
Smelling of alcohol or cigarettes
Poor grooming, unshaved/unruly hair
Teasers, mind games
Lack of subtlety, pushy, rude, arrogance
Attention seekers, need to be center of attention
Being drunk or high

Honorable Mentions: (only mentioned in one response)
Fake nails, wigs/weaves
Jewelry like a Xmas tree
Ugly feet
Perfume and lipstick
“lacking a pulse”/dead fish

Funny that there is nothing in this list that state size, race, color, age, stretch marks, scars or any of the other hangups so many of us have are a turn-off. So perhaps the problem is our own and not that of the general swinger population. If you have low self-esteem, keep it to yourself.

It seems that most of this list is manageable, and are things one can change to make themselves more attractive. Check your attitude at the door, ditch the artificial scent (most prospective play partners would rather smell YOU than your perfume) and put your best foot forward! (of course, we can’t do anything about the feet we were born with. I think the “ugly feet” comment was probably from a foot fetishist!)

If you are new to this lifestyle, maybe this will help you in beginning your exploration.

Perhaps this insight will help you in your quest for marital bliss. Or at least swingers bliss!