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Holiday Gift Ideas for the Swinger in Your Life

Sexy lady in Santa Hat and a wrapped gift

Looking for Fun and Sexy Gift ideas for the swinger in your life? Here are a few ideas to get you started!

  • Pineapple anything: decor (pillows, wall decor, garden flag) – bonus points if it can be displayed upside down
  • Sexy attire: For her: lingerie, anything gauzy or see-thru, sexy costume, fishnet, sexy panties.
    For him: sexy underwear, dressy shirt – especially one that is textured (ladies are very tactile, this may instigate more contact), a sexy watch (great conversation starter)
  • Massage oil: there’s never enough oil for a sexy massage, so don’t run out!
  • Massage blanket: something you can use every time the oil comes out, because like silicone lubricant, it will stain fabric
  • Tickets to Valentines in Niagara – they fit in a stocking nicely and gives you 6 weeks to plan and invite all your friends
  • Beach towel: especially with a pineapple or something sexy on it, for all those hot tub parties you’ll be going to
  • Travel mug/glass: great to take to events or house parties, you’ll never forget which glass is yours. One with a lid keeps it clean and creates fewer spills
  • Fancy face mask. Swingers love Masquerade parties, and it’s great to have a unique mask that no one else will be wearing.
  • Tickets to The O Zone’s Midnight Masquerade NYE Gala – they will pair nicely with the mask!
  • Sex Toys: Many swingers travel to house or hotel parties, swing clubs, and conventions and take their toys with them. Why not? No one will judge!
  • Sex Toy Bag: Perhaps you have outgrown your Travel Toy Bag – a new, bigger bag may be in order!
  • An extension cord to add to the toy bag if any of your toys require electricity – alternately: a wireless charging device for rechargeable toys
  • Lubricants and condoms: Most parties and clubs supply basic lube and condoms, but if you prefer a specific brand, why not gift them? Then you’re ready to roll to your next Swinger destination! Note: Silicone lube is great, but ruins linens: don’t use silicone lube in a hotel room, at a club or someone else’s home – they will thank you!
  • Bling for her: nipple pasties, shiny jewelry, waist chain, etc. It’ll get her noticed at the next event!
  • Spa gift certificate: she’ll love being pampered and will feel special and extra pretty after the visit. It might be good to combine with tickets to an event, like Valentines’ in Niagara!
  • Dance lessons: something you can do together that will get you both on the dance floor at the club. That kind of confidence is super sexy and will gain you many admirers!
  • Attend a sex workshop at your local sex shop and surprise her with what you’ve learned. Or go as a couple, depending on the topic.
  • Waterproof blanket – great for squirters or those who enjoy extra slippery play with lube/oil
  • Sexy, boudoir photoshoot – you can give them as a gift all at the same time, or disperse them one or two at a time, and have several as a backup for birthday, anniversary, Christmas and Valentines, as well as other ‘just because’ times.
  • Hire someone to come in and cook a romantic meal for the two of you, have a candlelit dinner together

There are so many sexy, naughty, personal gifts you can give that Special Someone in your life. Use your imagination, consider what that person would most appreciate and go from there. Good luck finding just the right gift!

Libra Horoscope

Libra sign depicted in blue against a black background

LIBRA
September 23 – October 22

LIBRA WOMEN: Drama is the keyword – you set the stage for sex. Intensely feminine and an instinctive exhibitionist. You feel your body was made to be seen and admired. Feel that seduction is an art, not an assault. When approached the right way, you find it easy to say yes to almost anything. Unusual control of vaginal muscles. Best sex mates: Aries, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius, and Aquarius. Like any position where your buttocks are exposed.



LIBRA MEN: Looks for the whole experience, not just a tumble between the sheets. Has a definite kinky side, a voyeur and fond of the ménage a trois. He has the patience needed to satisfy. He likes women who dress well and have long hair. If a woman’s clothes look as though they are easily removed, he finds her hard to ignore. Erogenous zone: back and buttocks, especially the feel of erect nipples against either of them!

Behind your discreet elegance, which seems to dare anyone to touch you, hides a warm and expressive sensuality – Librans know their bodies and do not deny them anything. Your demands are clear: a lover who is your equal, a refined professional who will give you the dinner and candlelight treatment you always fall for, and sparkling conversation for intellectual stimulation. You get bored easily and are wise enough to realize that you need someone capable of holding your attention.

Your energy comes from your wish to please and your secret desire to conquer the competition, proving that you are the most attractive person in the game. Fortunately for the poor souls who fall at your feet, this gives you a strong sexual energy. You are sexy, using your languorous tone of voice to mesmerize your victims.

Your fantasies are closely-guarded secrets, only divulged to a privileged few who you feel comfortable with. You have very specific tastes, tenderness, and toughness in equal measures and are not averse to a little light bondage of an evening. Certainly not with just anyone, you choose your lovers carefully for their rugged charm, humor and silver tongue. Despite all the secrecy, your favorite fantasy is the tenderness with which you expect you’re chosen one to treat you to prove his love.

As a people pleaser, Libra makes a very attentive and affectionate lover. They are full of sentimental romantic notions, so be patient with them and try to fulfill their fantasies. Since Libra is a natural flirt, they like to try fun experiments in bed.

To seduce Libra, give them good old-fashioned high-class romance. You need to be sophisticated, suave, and smooth. Since Libra is naturally attractive, it shouldn’t be hard to show them a good time with style.

Code Words in the LS to Keep You Safe

Safewords are more prevalent in the BDSM lifestyle, but what about for swingers? Surely there is a time when you want to indicate to your partner that you’re a NO for what’s being offered without offending the person or couple who are offering. Maybe it’s dancing and flirting with a couple on the dance floor, and your partner is like ‘Yes? You’re interested in this person to play with tonight?” You may not want to say out loud, “No, I’m not interested” in front of them and ruin the mood or offend them. So what can you do?

Some couples have code words worked out for just such a scenario. One couple I spoke to said they use fruits as an indicator. She doesn’t like lime, so might say something like ‘I taste lime in this drink’, or ‘with a lime twist’, to indicate she’s just not feeling it with this person. With a quick comment (or even a quick whispered word “Lime” in his ear) they have communicated clearly and without offending the other couple.

Likewise, when she is interested and would like to take it further, she uses ‘strawberry’ as their positive identifier. “Boy, it would be great to have some strawberries right now!” or “I smell strawberries!” and he knows he can help move the action from the dance floor to the playroom.

Using code words between you and your partner could help take some of the awkwardness out of communicating in front of others. It’s hard to say “Honey, while these people seem perfectly nice, I’m just not interested in them.” but dropping a code word that no one but your partner knows and understand is harmless and won’t hurt anyone’s feelings.

In the kink community, they use stoplight colors to indicate a willingness to participate. Green means GO, obviously. One could use this too while at a swing club “Oh look at that couple over there. I’m GREEN with envy over her shoes!”

Yellow usually indicates something is just not quite right and is often used as an indicator that play needs to slow down. Again, in swinging this could be good to extract yourselves from play that may have already started but you no longer are feeling it, and want to stop or take a break.

And Red is an All Stop safeword. In BDSM it is expected that if one says Red as a safeword, all play halts. Both or all participants can use a safeword, not just the bottom or sub. Likewise, in the swinging lifestyle, Red can be used to indicate to your partner that ‘you gotta get me out of here now!’ or ‘I am NOT into this and I am done.’

Of course, you and your partner should have this all worked out before you arrive at a club or party, so you are on the same page and you’re not throwing out code words that they aren’t picking up on it. Use words that aren’t likely to be used at a party or event, but aren’t so out of the blue (like saying ‘Broccoli’) that the other person or couple are left scratching their heads. Also, avoid using ‘boner killer’ words or phrases, like ‘your mother called today’, or it could kill the mood entirely.

This trick isn’t for everyone obviously. But if you think it might work for you, talk to your partner about it and come up with some safe or code words that just the two of you use. If nothing else, it’ll bring you closer together as honest and open communication skills are a cornerstone for the swinging lifestyle.

Good luck and have fun!