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Code Words in the LS to Keep You Safe

Safewords are more prevalent in the BDSM lifestyle, but what about for swingers? Surely there is a time when you want to indicate to your partner that you’re a NO for what’s being offered without offending the person or couple who are offering. Maybe it’s dancing and flirting with a couple on the dance floor, and your partner is like ‘Yes? You’re interested in this person to play with tonight?” You may not want to say out loud, “No, I’m not interested” in front of them and ruin the mood or offend them. So what can you do?

Some couples have code words worked out for just such a scenario. One couple I spoke to said they use fruits as an indicator. She doesn’t like lime, so might say something like ‘I taste lime in this drink’, or ‘with a lime twist’, to indicate she’s just not feeling it with this person. With a quick comment (or even a quick whispered word “Lime” in his ear) they have communicated clearly and without offending the other couple.

Likewise, when she is interested and would like to take it further, she uses ‘strawberry’ as their positive identifier. “Boy, it would be great to have some strawberries right now!” or “I smell strawberries!” and he knows he can help move the action from the dance floor to the playroom.

Using code words between you and your partner could help take some of the awkwardness out of communicating in front of others. It’s hard to say “Honey, while these people seem perfectly nice, I’m just not interested in them.” but dropping a code word that no one but your partner knows and understand is harmless and won’t hurt anyone’s feelings.

In the kink community, they use stoplight colors to indicate a willingness to participate. Green means GO, obviously. One could use this too while at a swing club “Oh look at that couple over there. I’m GREEN with envy over her shoes!”

Yellow usually indicates something is just not quite right and is often used as an indicator that play needs to slow down. Again, in swinging this could be good to extract yourselves from play that may have already started but you no longer are feeling it, and want to stop or take a break.

And Red is an All Stop safeword. In BDSM it is expected that if one says Red as a safeword, all play halts. Both or all participants can use a safeword, not just the bottom or sub. Likewise, in the swinging lifestyle, Red can be used to indicate to your partner that ‘you gotta get me out of here now!’ or ‘I am NOT into this and I am done.’

Of course, you and your partner should have this all worked out before you arrive at a club or party, so you are on the same page and you’re not throwing out code words that they aren’t picking up on it. Use words that aren’t likely to be used at a party or event, but aren’t so out of the blue (like saying ‘Broccoli’) that the other person or couple are left scratching their heads. Also, avoid using ‘boner killer’ words or phrases, like ‘your mother called today’, or it could kill the mood entirely.

This trick isn’t for everyone obviously. But if you think it might work for you, talk to your partner about it and come up with some safe or code words that just the two of you use. If nothing else, it’ll bring you closer together as honest and open communication skills are a cornerstone for the swinging lifestyle.

Good luck and have fun!

Taurus Birthday Bash! Free for all Taurus members with ID!

At The O Zone Toronto, we want our guests to celebrate their Birthdays in style! We have a Birthday party every month, and Taurus Night is on Sat. May 11th, along with Amanda’s B’day Bash!! Bring your ID for FREE couples admission (for you and your partner) this night! We’ll help you celebrate in style! Bring your friends!

Image of a blue bull on black background, depicting Taurus, the astrological sign.

Taurus Birthday Bash Sat May 11, 2019

TAURUS
April 20 – May 20
TAURUS WOMEN: You expect your man to be kind and patient and make love to you by the book.
Like to be pleased by sex, but don’t look for unusual approaches. But you are a demanding lover and leave your partner breathless. You have a need for oral gratification, both giving and receiving. Best sex mates: Cancer, Sagittarius, Scorpio, and Leo. Most likely kink: sucking on your toes, one by one. You also like biting…hmmm!
TAURUS MEN: He is the ideal lover – sensitive and understanding of his partners’ feelings. He prefers it slow and easy; he won’t be your guide to the exotic unknown, but what he does, he does beautifully. This is the guy to go for long and luxurious oral sex. Stamina? This man could wear down a glacier! His erogenous zone: gently and slowly kiss and bite the back of his neck.
Behind your Material Girl facade lies the most sensual sign of the Zodiac. You have a soft, sweet appeal, with porcelain skin and curves that a Flemish painter would die for. Your generous nature makes you a considerate lover.
You have a hearty sexual appetite but are fiercely faithful to your lovers. You like to take your time and enjoy giving as well as receiving, but hate bad sex and are right to keep your pride and follow your intuition- you always know when to stick with it and when to give them up as a bad job!
You have the energy of a marathon runner and the enthusiasm of someone set on winning Olympic gold. You are relaxed in bed and know how to make every second count, as you build up to a mind-blowing climax. You put your heart into it, making sure your partner is fulfilled on every level- people feel comfortable with you and frequently let you know. You have a knack for pressing the right buttons and drawing out people’s deepest fantasies, even though you sometimes lack imagination yourself.
Like a good Taurean, with your feet firmly on the ground, you prefer what you can see and touch to what may be in your head. You look down on fantasies as unimportant and secondary to your sexual reality. You may prefer action, but fantasies are not necessarily reserved for those who live in a dream-world, if you ignore this part of yourself, you are ignoring an important part of your Tauerean personality, to the detriment of both you and your partner. Let your
imagination run away with you, you might be surprised where you end up.

This is the most masculine of signs, which fuels its enormous sex drive. Which zodiac sign is the best lover? It might just be this one. Their appetite for intimacy seems insatiable and they need lots of physical touch; no rushing with this sign. To them, good love is like good food—worth taking some time to enjoy. They also have beautiful voices.
To seduce Taurus, give lots of presents and take advantage of their sensuality by always smelling good and having soft skin and a fresh minty mouth.

The O Zone’s Mardi Pardi is the Pardi Of The Year!

Poster with a lady in a mask and details for Mardi Pardi event

All the pertinent info for Mardi Pardi, Sat. March 23rd!

The O Zone is known for its extravagant parties with over-the-top decorations, and Mardi Pardi is no exception! This is one of The Zone’s largest parties each year, and adventurous couples from all over Canada and the US converge for a night of decadent and naughty fun! This year, the date is Saturday, March 23rd!

Mardi Gras is traditionally the mark of the beginning of Lent in the Catholic religion and is best known for its roots in New Orleans, Louisiana. Mardi Gras is known for street parties, opulent costumes with masks and huge parades dancing thru the streets. But it’s most known for the beads. During Mardi Gras in Nawlin’s, ladies flash their breasts to the crowds. Appreciative onlookers reward them with strands of colorful plastic beads. Often onlookers are standing on the balconies on the second floor looking down into the street.

A woman's bare breast and many colorful Mardi Gras beads

Ladies flash their breasts to earn colorful beads

The O Zone has adopted that tradition. They give beads to every male member of couples arriving for the evening. The ladies are encouraged to flash the gentlemen to earn beads. Around midnight, the Most Beads contest is measured and the winner receives a grounds pass for 2 for Sandy Bottoms Resort this summer. Last years winner had a haul that weighed a whopping 32 lbs!

Of course, this event wouldn’t be the opulent, debauchery-driven party it is without some anonymity. Mardi Gras is also known for its beautiful masks. And The O Zone’s party is no different! Many guests arrive in masks to help set the mood. Don’t have a mask? No problem!! Arrive early! The first 30 ladies thru the door will receive a beautiful metal La Senza mask! Doors open at 8 pm, so aim to arrive early!

A woman in a red feathered mask showing only her eye and red lips

Masks are an important part of Mardi Gras

The other thing that Mardi Gras is known for is it’s theme colors of Gold, Green, and Purple. The colors were chosen in 1872 and have the following meaning: Purple = Justice. Green = Faith. Gold = Power. However, you symbolize the colors, feel free to wear these, or any bright colors to add to the festive atmosphere at Mardi Pardi!

Feathered mask, hat, beads and champagne in Gold, Green and Purple for Mardi Gras

Green, Gold & Purple are the official colors of Mardi Gras

This is the 12th annual Mardi Pardi The O Zone has hosted, and they’ve got it down pat! Appetizers and food served all evening long, free beads for all the guys and free masks for the first 30 ladies, specialty drinks and music to keep you moving all night long!

Not been to The O Zone before? Check out the official site and it’s FAQ page to answer any questions you may have. Don’t worry, you won’t be the only newbie at an event here! You’ll be well cared for but our awesome staff and our regular, friendly members. Questions about the Lifestyle? Check this out!

A poster promoting Mardi PrePardi on Fri. March 22

FREE Admission on Fri. if you have tickets to Sat!

And because the fun never ends at The O Zone, they are offering a special bonus! Tickets for Mardi Pardi on Saturday night include admission to the club the night before for their Mardi Pardi Pre-Party on Friday night! Many guests stay at a nearby hotel for the weekend and sleep in Saturday morning, do a little shopping and head back to The Zone for Saturday’s party.

And of course, there are the playrooms if the naughtiness of the evening has you feeling a little randy! Many couples culminate their evening with a trip to the playrooms, but that’s totally up to you. Many couples come to enjoy the sexy atmosphere, the chance to dress provocatively for their partner and to create a sizzle in their relationship. How you enjoy Mardi Pardi, or any other event at The O Zone for that matter, is up to you and your partner.

Mardi Pardi sold out last year before the event, so book your tickets now to avoid disappointment, then start planning that sexy outfit! See you in The Zone!