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How to “Dress To Impress” for Men

Man adjusting his collar of a suit jacket

What we wear to a Lifestyle event sets the tone for an evening out when meeting new people. Wearing comfortable street clothes can tell others that you couldn’t be bothered to dress up for the occasion, and that might translate into others thinking you might not be the most dynamic lover. On the other hand, dressing up and paying attention to details can communicate to others that you are an attentive lover with an eye on detail. It’s all in the perception.

Of course, at a house or pool party, the dress code may call for casual clothing, so do consider that. But at classier house, hotel and private parties, and especially at swinger clubs, the “Dress to Impress” credo is important to follow if you want to impress and connect with others.

We found a forum post on swingersboard.com that talks about this, so we thought we’d use it as a basis for this blog post. You can see the whole thread here, but the following excerpts are taken from there, as we thought the poster had some great advice for men! Of course, we added our own input as well to round out the topic.

First, things to avoid when ‘Dressing to Impress’.

  • Running shoes. If you wear them to the grocery store, to cut the grass or to walk the dog, it’s not appropriate. We also suggest avoiding flip flops and cheap sandals, as this does not read as ‘sexy’, just ‘comfortable’.
  • Ball caps. Even if you wear a hat daily or it’s your favorite team, leave it at home. If you must wear a hat, make it fun and creative, like a fedora. It will cover your bald spot just as well and could be a good conversation starter.
  • Especially worn, torn and/or faded denim. Again, if you lounge around your home in them, cut the grass or go camping in them, they are not for the club. The only jeans you should consider – and again, we suggest you just avoid denim altogether as it is not a dressy material – would be designer jeans that fit you properly.

Now, on to the great suggestions:

  • Shoes. These are your foundation. They should be comfortable (nothing sexy about a grimacing face on the dance floor), and easy to move in. Leather or suede show class and taste, although many men’s shoe choices are fabric now. Choices could be: dress shoes, or on-trend slip-ons, chukka’s, ankle boots and the like are a start.
  • Socks. They need to have been purchased sometime in the last 2 years. Don’t be afraid of colors, and fun patterns that can also be a good conversation starter. Black shoes = black/grey/navy base socks. Brown shoes = brown/tan/earth tone socks.

Brown leather mens shoes and a matching belt

  • Belt. Should RELATE to the shoe color. Leather is best. Wider belts on less dressy pants and even jeans can elevate the look. Bling or a fun buckle can be good, but don’t go overboard with size or flash. Subtle is better. And hey, this could have the ladies looking down at your crotch. That can’t be a bad thing!
  • Underwear. Bought in the last year. Don’t be afraid to go with bold colors or prints. Black is a sure bet and looks great on everyone. Try fitted ‘boy shorts’ or boxer briefs with a little elastic in the fabric to keep its shape. These really hug the boys, give support and look great when flaccid or aroused. Boxers may be more comfortable, but not nearly so sexy when disrobing in the playroom. And let’s face it… you love it when she’s wearing something sexy under that dress…. why not have a sexy surprise for her too?
  • Pants. Lots of options here, in color, fabric, and cut. Avoid denim as previously stated. Pleated fronts are not flattering and make the wearer balloon out unnaturally in the middle, creating an unflattering profile. Flat front pants are more flattering on more body types. Casual chic dress slacks that aren’t business focused are everywhere these days and look great. Dress flat-front Khaki’s in non-tan colors are popular and look good. A slack with some pattern that is subtle can also be nice. If you’re only going to get one pair, black goes with everything. But colors can be fun too: reds, burgundy, greens, dark brown, etc.
  • Shirts. Way more options here. Dress To Impress usually implies a shirt with a collar, so avoid T-shirts. Think non-button-down collared dress shirts (the kind without buttons on the collar), which can be suit dressy, or casual without a tie. Our original poster suggests avoiding Polo shirts, even though they are collared, as they belong on the golf course. But, if the choice is between a T and a Polo, then go with the collar. Another suggestion is a black stretch T, which means ‘fitted’, under an open, button-down knit. This adds a nice layered effect and can hide a few extra pounds. Consider wearing something that has a slight texture to it. The ladies may be drawn to touch it, and who doesn’t like a little contact
  • Jacket. Weather will dictate this. Try a nice, unstructured blazer. The fit is key, guys. Don’t go a size larger, as this just reads as ‘dumpy’.
  • Accessorize. Have a nice watch? Wear it, it speaks volumes. Most people use their phones as their timepiece, but in a busy club many people won’t have theirs on hand, so this could be a good ice breaker. “Excuse me, do you have the time?”
  • Finishing Touches. (directly from the original post, cuz hey! We agree wholeheartedly!) “Your feet are self-pedicured. Your fingernails are clean, clipped close, and looking good. You are always shower fresh and not heavily fragranced. And your oral hygiene (that means floss and tongue scraper) is impeccable.”

A man who dresses sharply and takes pride in his appearance translates to ‘this is a man who cares about his partner and will pay attention to detail in his lovemaking too.’ We assure you, the ladies will take notice!

Taurus Birthday Bash! Free for all Taurus members with ID!

At The O Zone Toronto, we want our guests to celebrate their Birthdays in style! We have a Birthday party every month, and Taurus Night is on Sat. May 11th, along with Amanda’s B’day Bash!! Bring your ID for FREE couples admission (for you and your partner) this night! We’ll help you celebrate in style! Bring your friends!

Image of a blue bull on black background, depicting Taurus, the astrological sign.

Taurus Birthday Bash Sat May 11, 2019

TAURUS
April 20 – May 20
TAURUS WOMEN: You expect your man to be kind and patient and make love to you by the book.
Like to be pleased by sex, but don’t look for unusual approaches. But you are a demanding lover and leave your partner breathless. You have a need for oral gratification, both giving and receiving. Best sex mates: Cancer, Sagittarius, Scorpio, and Leo. Most likely kink: sucking on your toes, one by one. You also like biting…hmmm!
TAURUS MEN: He is the ideal lover – sensitive and understanding of his partners’ feelings. He prefers it slow and easy; he won’t be your guide to the exotic unknown, but what he does, he does beautifully. This is the guy to go for long and luxurious oral sex. Stamina? This man could wear down a glacier! His erogenous zone: gently and slowly kiss and bite the back of his neck.
Behind your Material Girl facade lies the most sensual sign of the Zodiac. You have a soft, sweet appeal, with porcelain skin and curves that a Flemish painter would die for. Your generous nature makes you a considerate lover.
You have a hearty sexual appetite but are fiercely faithful to your lovers. You like to take your time and enjoy giving as well as receiving, but hate bad sex and are right to keep your pride and follow your intuition- you always know when to stick with it and when to give them up as a bad job!
You have the energy of a marathon runner and the enthusiasm of someone set on winning Olympic gold. You are relaxed in bed and know how to make every second count, as you build up to a mind-blowing climax. You put your heart into it, making sure your partner is fulfilled on every level- people feel comfortable with you and frequently let you know. You have a knack for pressing the right buttons and drawing out people’s deepest fantasies, even though you sometimes lack imagination yourself.
Like a good Taurean, with your feet firmly on the ground, you prefer what you can see and touch to what may be in your head. You look down on fantasies as unimportant and secondary to your sexual reality. You may prefer action, but fantasies are not necessarily reserved for those who live in a dream-world, if you ignore this part of yourself, you are ignoring an important part of your Tauerean personality, to the detriment of both you and your partner. Let your
imagination run away with you, you might be surprised where you end up.

This is the most masculine of signs, which fuels its enormous sex drive. Which zodiac sign is the best lover? It might just be this one. Their appetite for intimacy seems insatiable and they need lots of physical touch; no rushing with this sign. To them, good love is like good food—worth taking some time to enjoy. They also have beautiful voices.
To seduce Taurus, give lots of presents and take advantage of their sensuality by always smelling good and having soft skin and a fresh minty mouth.

Swingers Club in Toronto

4 Extremely Important Topics ALL Couples Need To Discuss Before Swinging

While exploring your sexuality with your partner is one thing, deciding to try swinging is taking things to a completely new level. For this reason, checking out a swingers club and testing out the lifestyle is not something that you should take lightly. This is why it so important to talk with your partner about the pros and cons of getting involved in the scene.

If you are both legitimately interested in exploring your sexuality together and seeing what swinging can do for you as a couple, here are some things that you need to discuss to ensure you are on the same page:

1. Swinging Rules

All couples approach swinging and swingers clubs in their own unique way. Some are all in, while others take a more passive approach to the lifestyle. This is why it’s important to set some ground rules for how you will approach the lifestyle and engage with other couples.

2. Swinging Frequency

How often will you engage in swinging? Is it a once in a while things? A few times per month? All the time? Figure out what makes sense for you as a couple.

3. Swinging Limits

Setting limits is important, especially when it comes to engaging in sexual acts with other people. Is oral your limit? Sex while watching? Are you comfortable with your partner having sex without you being present? These are all things you need to discuss.

4. Swinging Fears and Concerns

Naturally, there will be some fear and reservation about getting involved in swinging. It’s important for you and your partner to get all your fears, thoughts and ideas out in the open. Also, make it a point to discuss deal breakers and situations that you are not comfortable with. Get everything out in the open.

Honesty is essential if you want to have a fun and enjoyable experience trying out swinging and going to the swingers club. Have an open and honest dialogue. This is what best ways for new couples to approach the lifestyle.